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When women make inappropriate comments to other women at work

Skipper

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I'm getting fucking ANNOYED at two women I work with, who have taken on a personal mission to make me feel shitty about how much weight I've lost since i started working here. (about 20 pounds in 6 months)

I've been told that I don't have an ass, I have an "extended back" and that men want something to grab on to. I've been asked (in a real snarky tone) what my bra size is now. Like "ha ha, losing weight isn't all it's cracked up to be, is it?" I've sat through lunches, listening to them analyze the healthy items on my plate, and laugh at the fact that I'm apparently starving myself, and my meals are boring.

I'm so fucking fed up, and I've made comments to both of them, and although they've backed off a bit, I still get the odd comment every now and then that gets me pissed off all over again.

Truth is, if they were men, I'd have no problem reporting them. Two men consistently making comments about the body of a female co-worker wouldbe totally unacceptable.

(this thread was brought to you by the little bitch of an intern who just commented on my shrinking chest.)
 

mandapanda

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do people still do that out of high school? they're probably just jealous - not that that excuses stupid behaviour.
 

pr0nstar

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When my ex used to be told at work she's too skinny and she should eat more, blah, blah... she ate more than I ever could.

She replied back with ... "You know you could eat less!" "You could lose a few pounds yourself" ...

I think that's just great, fight fire with fire!!!

pr0nstar :D
 

MeL_Roc

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Don't listen to them. They're just jealous of you. People who put others down usually have huge insecurities about themselves.
 
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stir-fry

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I'm with kenny.. you should make it your personal mission to point out any time you feel they have eaten too many carbs, or put too much sugar in their coffee or taken one too many bites of chocolate..

if that doesn't work, i'd recommend spitting in their faces
 

rubytuesday

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That's so annoying, and it sounds like you're too nice to make some little jabs yourself, which is what I would do. The best insult is to ask "You look so tired today, is something wrong?" and hopefully they'll say no and be self-conscious the rest of the day.

Don't take it to heart, and anyways, who wants bigger boobs if it's attached to an unhealthy body? If breasts are their only claim to self-esteem you should just pity them.
 

finary

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why should this abuse be any different coming from a woman?

it still hurts your feelings and makes you feel uncomfortable at your place of employment. that = bad.
 
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Skipper

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Originally posted by stir-fry

if that doesn't work, i'd recommend spitting in their faces
LOL

I'm not the sort of person who would point out their poor eating habits though - when I was overweight, I didn't appreciate that, and I just wouldn't feel comfortable stooping to that sort of petiness.

Although once, I did make a comment to the more loud-mouth of the two about being jealous, but then I felt stupid - like, I don't WANT to be catty like that.
 

IgStar

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Originally posted by MeL_Roc
Don't listen to them. They're just jealous of you.
bingo.

try not to let the skunts get to you, think of it as a positive thing that it's driving them crazy seeing how good you look.
lol
men want something to grab onto? tell her that her husband must be super fucking happy with her then. (if she has a fat-ass)
 

pr0nstar

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Originally posted by Skipper
LOL

I'm not the sort of person who would point out their poor eating habits though - when I was overweight, I didn't appreciate that, and I just wouldn't feel comfortable stooping to that sort of petiness.

Although once, I did make a comment to the more loud-mouth of the two about being jealous, but then I felt stupid - like, I don't WANT to be catty like that.
But you have to fight fire with fire in this situation, I bet you.

Say it just once, they'll never open their "fat" mouths again ;)
 

RJ45

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Two words:

Ok, fatty.

These can be used to retort to any and all things they say to you, including "good morning".
 
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Big Cheese

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Originally posted by Skipper
I don't WANT to be catty like that.
and you shouldn't

but i mean, fight fire with fire sometimes that's the only thing that will work.....


making cute little comments about something stupid that will make them stop and take notice, done enough times here and there (like they do to you) will i'm sure...

cut the wizenhimer remarks down to a minimum

hope that helps sarah-bo-berra
 

chooch

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Could you approach them and ask if they would like this to escalate into an issue with HR and harassment? Perhaps that would keep them quiet. Obviously there is power in numbers with these two...does this happen when only the three of you are in the room or is there any witnesses to their behaviour?

Maybe you could ask them if they really feel what they just said to you is appropriate? Call them on their shit from a different level.
 
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deep

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fucking report them or punch them in the twat. they have no business saying what they do, they're obviously playa hating. if it were men they'd be castrated for saying that shit, equal opportunity yo.

also, rj45's advice = brilliant
 

Skipper

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Truthfully, I just don't want to firing remarks back. It will just egg them on, trust me. I think they know that they are jealous - not so much that I've lost the weight, but that I've had the discipline to do so.

Perhaps something alongthe lines of "I’m rnot comfortable with you criticizing my body. It’s not funny, and it’s not professional. I won’t be taking it lightly anymore." would help.
 
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deep

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also, I think you should leave them twinkies and other pastries on their desk every day , plus pictures of cows and pigs

and leave a little love note saying "thanks for the encouragement"
 

greasy joe

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Originally posted by pr0nstar
Most white people don't have asses, it's genetics.

pr0nstar :D

I beg to differ. My gf has the mintest body and then this badunkadunk from hell!!! It rocks, sooooooooo yummy to have a nice round bubble butt :p Oh yeah shes white. Everytime we go to a hip hop club all the bro's cant take their eyes off her sweet ass.
 

LeoGirl

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Originally posted by Skipper
Although once, I did make a comment to the more loud-mouth of the two about being jealous, but then I felt stupid - like, I don't WANT to be catty like that.

Sticking up for yourself is not catty. I feel that way sometimes too.

Next time they're analyzing your food in the lunch room offer them some pointers or advise on their own eating habits since you've noticed they seem so obsessed with yours. ;)

good luck
 

finary

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pfffft
these situations are much more fun if you make a big stink!

dont take the boring way out!
 
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