Three way relationships

[d.code]

Three people. All going out with each other.
Some will say it wont work. But to those I must ask: what relationships do work?

My mind is being ripped appart. Three people? All sharing each other? Is it possible? If you did think it was possible would you do it? How do you apply your rules of dating to three people? With out a doubt for arguements sake- lets say the sex is *perfect*.
Im not sure what belife I should place my morals in- and Im not sure how to wiegh my options. I also dont know how something like this will effect people I know. Im not a dog in heat. Im not a sex crazed person.
Why is this idea so appealing bassed on the fact that I know it wont last?

Cheers
-Tyler

 

[Temper Tantrum]

I'm confused, you've got polygamous girlfriends?

~allie~

 

[el presidente Highsteppa]

Some people can handle it, others can't.
From the looks of your post, I don't think you're one of those people that can, and you're no less a person for being who you are.

From the Ministry of be true to yourself.

Prime Minister Highsteppa

 

[Bass-Invader]

i think this is one of those things where the 'rules' are evaluated on a case by case basis.

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[d.code]

Exactly.
I think I can handle it though. But the circumstances are wrong. The problem is- there are three people here. Many different combinations. One may like the other more. That is the real problem Im facing.

Cheers
Tyler

 

[d.code]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">i think this is one of those things where the 'rules' are evaluated on a case by case basis.

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That is what Im thinking. That is also why my brain is being ripped appart. Normally my brain loves stress. I find my morals shifting. Im not sure if I like it or not because it leaves everything unstable.

Cheers
Tyler

 

[Zer0G]

What?

Sorry I got the Iced Earth turned up loud, no time to think now.

I wish I had some beer.

 

[d.code]

Smoke a spliff. Start spillin the thoughts.
No one does that these days.

Cheers
Tyler

 

[KiX]

I'm the last person who should be entitled to give out advice like this, I'm the worst at taking heed of it, but just go for it.

How often does one come up with the opportunity for something like this??? Who knows, maybe it will be more incredible and intense than any relationship before. Maybe it will be awesome. Chances are very high it won't work out. It's hard enough balancing two people's feelings let alone three... but who knows?

You'll never know till you try, right?

And if it doesn't work out... things will pick themselves up eventually... meh! At least you know you tried.

=tina=

 

[JEMZ]

I think it could definately work... you lucky bastard.

 

[d.code]

Im not worried about things not picking themselves up because they always do! It never takes that long.

Your exactly right Tina- but you can understand what I mean about having trouble placing your morals right? When you get hit by questions like "If X left you then would you still be around for me?" when it was X that got you intrested in the first place. Then you start feeling for Y. The one I like the most is constantly shifting and they always ask me which one I like the most. I dont ask them. Its a question I think is best left unsaid most of the time. But again it needs to be said to keep things in check with 3 people. Thus you have constant delimas.

Cheers
Tyler

 

[dj_jake_the_snake]

Jesus christ tyler let me follow you around and record the events that transpire. kind of like what we were supposed to do back in the summertime. this'll be like hemingway's novel (i can't remember the name) where he has a relationship with two women at once and he talks about dealing with loving both of them and how that feels.

 

[d.code]

I feel like I havent slept in days.

Brian: I must know the name of this book. Did they both know about each others presense?

Cheers
Tyler

 

[el presidente Highsteppa]

Compromising one's morals is never a really good thing to do. You held them close to you because they worked for you. They helped you get through things and made you to be able to live with yourself. Sacrificing them or putting them on hold can either change the person that you are, or just make you feel awkward and give you trouble in dealing with the situation at hand. You had these morals for a reason, be it for self image, conduct of life or whatever, going away from them might seem like a good idea in the short term, but could lead to you going back to them later on, and possibly regret you're leaving them by the way side. Do what you must, but do it for your own reasons and know that they are the reasons that best suit you and who you are.

From the Ministry of truth to oneself.

Prime Minister Highsteppa

 

[d.code]

Your like the good voice James- Tina is like the bad one.

!!!

Cheers
Tyler

 

[KiX]

lol alright, I'll REVISE.

Relationships need trust. If all three of you can trust eachother mutually and non-exclusively, if all three of you can manage to not get jealous or posessive....at least if you think you can... go for it.

If there is lack of trust or jealousy issues, as with any relationship, regardless of numerical value, it shouldn't be.

=tina=

 

[Temper Tantrum]

Tina is the most uncorrupted and innocent person I know.

I aspire to be as holy as her one day.

~allie~

 

[KiX]

Oh wait we're talking morals here. Just keep in mind, morals are fundamental, but are never cast in stone, and should be ever-changing as you yourself are everchanging.

*puffpuffpass*

=tina=

 

[huggs946]

A 3 way realtionship would never work unless the 3 of you ingest copious amount of illegal substances on a daily basis cause when reality(sobriety) hits...huh?

3 way sex is gooooooood
3 way relationship....one women to love is enough thank you:lol

 

[d.code]

Okay - now what if I dont have a problem with those reasons Tina- I know I can do that- what if the problem lies over them possesing me?

Why did this have to happen with such attractive people!

Cheers
Tyler

 

[KiX]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Temper Tantrum:

~allie~</font>

That fucking bitch stole my prayer shawl!

=tina=

 

[KiX]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by d.code:
Okay - now what if I dont have a problem with those reasons Tina- I know I can do that- what if the problem lies over them possesing me?

Why did this have to happen with such attractive people!

Cheers
Tyler</font>

So the uglies don't breed!

Overposessing you? Don't worry, there's enough of your ego to go round.

Anyways.... this is something *they* have to deal with. If they can both accept sharing you equally and fairly, then fine. If either of them thinks the'll have a problem with it... then not so fine.

=tina=

 

[el presidente Highsteppa]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by KiX:
Oh wait we're talking morals here. Just keep in mind, morals are fundamental, but are never cast in stone, and should be ever-changing as you yourself are everchanging.

*puffpuffpass*

=tina=</font>

The change happens naturally, and can't be forced though. Some people cast down their morals, mistaking it for progress.

From the Ministry of evolution happens often when we least expect it, and when it's least convienient.

Prime Minister Highsteppa (the good side)

 

[d.code]

huggs: I rarely do drugs other than pot.

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Just keep in mind, morals are fundamental, but are never cast in stone, and should be ever-changing as you yourself are everchanging.

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RRRRRRR

Okay. Thats what I was driving at. Thats why this seems... natural. My morals are compinsating- but I want to take the next step to catch up to the falling bridge before my foot has landed. Get that anology?

cheers
Tyler

 

[el presidente Highsteppa]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by d.code:
RRRRRRR

Okay. Thats what I was driving at. Thats why this seems... natural. My morals are compinsating- but I want to take the next step to catch up to the falling bridge before my foot has landed. Get that anology?

cheers
Tyler</font>

Got it.

If it really feels right, deep down inside, then by all means go for it. It's not unusual to feel some apprehension when going through a new experience, esp. when it might deal with an issue that society as a whole might not approve of 100%. You'll know when it feels right, and when it feels wrong. If I have trouble knowing what to do next and am struggling to figure out what to do, then I know it's likely that I wasn't cut out for the situation. Things that feel right just do. They don't always come easy, but you usually have the satisfaction at the end. Sometimes you won't know if it's right or wrong until you've done it. But I always trust my gut and my spidey sense (instinct) when I think something isn't right. I might not be ready for it yet, or might not be cut out to ever do the task, but that is me.

From the Ministry of all I can offer in the way of advice is be true to yourself.

Prime Minister Highsteppa