• Hi Guest: Welcome to TRIBE, the online home of TRIBE MAGAZINE. If you'd like to post here, or reply to existing posts on TRIBE, you first have to register. Join us!

The Mom Thread

Alex D. from TRIBE on Utility Room

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
where are you located leigh?
i'm part of a FB group (toronto) moms buy & sell. you can get a pump there for a great deal and just buy the replacement parts (tubes, filters etc)
 

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
Actually leigh - my friend Nicole is selling a Medela mini electric pump for $40.
Let me know if you're interested and i'll put you in touch. She's in the Beaches.
 

rubytuesday

TRIBE Member
Brooklyn is getting epic in her craziness. She'll be 3 in a week and she's insane. This morning Kevin was trying to force her pants on her (because you know, you need to wear pants to daycare) as she lay on our upstairs hallway floor SCREAMING "LEAVE ME ALONE!!! LEAVE ME ALONE!!!". Eventually when they left for daycare, she went wearing no coat, as she was adamant it was 'warm out'. Yah right kid.

3 year olds = exhausting.

:) sarah

This is starting over here too, this morning was rough, he ended up in a long-sleeved shirt, shorts, and rain boots with no socks. He gets into this zone where it doesn't matter what the choices are, he's going to find something to get really hysterical about regardless. This morning we gave up and offered him a freezie to distract him from whatever else had set him off and that turned into "I WANT THE RED FREEZIE" "NO I WANT THE YELLOW FREEZIE" "NO I WANT THE RED FREEZIE".


leigh you definitely need to pump at least twice, not only for your supply but so your boobs don't cause you terrible pain.
 
tribe cannabis accessories silver grinders

jocelyn dee

TRIBE Promoter
This is starting over here too, this morning was rough, he ended up in a long-sleeved shirt, shorts, and rain boots with no socks. He gets into this zone where it doesn't matter what the choices are, he's going to find something to get really hysterical about regardless. This morning we gave up and offered him a freezie to distract him from whatever else had set him off and that turned into "I WANT THE RED FREEZIE" "NO I WANT THE YELLOW FREEZIE" "NO I WANT THE RED FREEZIE".


leigh you definitely need to pump at least twice, not only for your supply but so your boobs don't cause you terrible pain.

I found three a harder age than two. (At one point I even googled something like "I can't handle three year old tantrums") lol.

I'm finding 4 pretty awesome though. Hang in there.

Also, pick your battles. I also used the counting to 3 technique a lot and it worked - but you have to be firm with the consequences i.e. "You choose if you want the red or yellow freezie. If you haven't picked yellow or red by the time I count to three, I will pick it for you...1...2...2 and a half..and usually by 2 and a half you get results.

Warning, if you get to 3 and don't follow through with consequences it won't work.

A few times I said if you don't do X by the count of three there will be "consequences" (Usually when I was flustered and couldn't come up with appropriate consequences right at that moment). The threat of "consequences" was enough. But that was after I followed through with other actual consequences in the past, so that may be why.
 

rubytuesday

TRIBE Member
No major tantrums since last week thankfully! I did get that book though, and they recommend using babysitters/daycare/preschool as much as possible, haha. The counting to 3 is a good reminder though, I am pretty consistent at following through with L but in the morning rush it can be hard to think straight.

L is in a nice, exploratory phase most of the time now, he's trying new foods again and is a lot more outgoing with situations/activities so we're trying to establish some new routines while he's so flexible (like getting him used to sitting at restaurants, visiting new places, going to friend's houses). The book says most kids hit difficult stages at the half year point and are pretty good around their birthdays, L seems to follow this but it can happen earlier or later for other kids. Luckily for us his birthday is always in the summer so we have a lot of fun in the summers and then winter just sucks. Hopefully things will calm down a bit more at 4 and 5. :)
 

mcbee

TRIBE Member
3 is effing hard that is all I will say.

But you know what is harder...the effing stomach flu when you are 7.5 months pregnant. wowza this week has been hard. I'm finally back eating and feeling like I will live again.

:) sarah
 

Casey

TRIBE Member
The half year thing seems to be true for my son, who is now nearing 2.5. We struggle a lot with getting him dressed in the morning, for example. A little while ago after reading one of mcbees posts I decided just to take him to daycare in the cold with no sweater or coat on after an epic tantrum about putting them on. He asked for them pretty much as soon as we got outside. Then he gave me a hug. Win! I also find counting to three with a choice of two things / consequences very helpful.

I'm hoping things calm down a bit once he gets closer to 3 (ha!) because we are now expecting baby #2 :)
 

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
awesome news! congrats.

We had ours 3 years apart and there are (many) days when i wish we'd had them closer together, for a number of reasons - the biggest being, to get the crazytown shit over with quicker rather than prolonging it. But there are good things about the spacing as well - the fact that each kid gets a fair bit of 'me' time with the parents b/c the older one heads off to school. My husband was the one who was insistent on the 3 year gap, but if i were to do it again, I think I'd want them 2 years apart.
 
tribe cannabis accessories silver grinders

Casey

TRIBE Member
Thanks! We're pretty excited. We were aiming for a 2.5 year gap to split the difference, but it took us a few extra months to conceive this time. They will be just under 3 years apart (I'm due in November and my son will be 3 in January).
 

rubytuesday

TRIBE Member
Congrats Casey!

Boo mcbee that does suck, hopefully you can get some rest this long weekend.

I've been reading again, thanks to L finally finally sleeping all night which means I can stay up on weekends and read instead of napping with him. I've been finding some good self care books including these two:

The 28 Days Lighter Diet (not really a diet book but a great book if you're not on the pill or other hormonal birth control)

Nurturing the Soul of Your Family: lots of ideas for self care and how to feel more at peace with family life
 

Jennika

TRIBE Member
for those of you dealing with the three's, it's called a THREENAGER

the threes are crazy with the defiance and the assertion. but darnit they're cute
 

peko

TRIBE Member
Congrats Casey!!

mcbee - I hope you get lots of rest this weekend. I would not want the bug going around ATM, forget while pregnant!

Threeanger LOL!!! IMLE, the trickery began at 2.5yrs, oye. Dinner on daycare days are a complete write-off. I have dinner ready and warm for right after daycare, but NOTHING is working. I always think to myself; "next time Gadget, next time".

What I love most: Playing make-up (Oksana's HUGE into Halloween) and having Oksana pretend to put makeup on me and then she does a zombie walk after, hee.

Latest Youtube interest: Rino & Yuma = all kinds of awesome.
 

jocelyn dee

TRIBE Promoter
Mine are 22 months apart.

It was 2 years of crazy times for me (but I also had my own mental health issues on top of that). I'm not sure if it is the best way. Thank goodness my older one was OK at sleeping through the night by 2 so that made things a little easier.

Now they are 2.5 and 4.25 and they fight over stuff. Sometimes they play togethter too but they fight almost as much.

If I was going to do it again by planning it out, I would wait untill my older one was 5 and could help me a bit with the baby. Also, I would only have one baby to deal with at a time.

Just my $0.02
 
tribe cannabis accessories silver grinders

mingster

TRIBE Member
David is just over 2 yrs 9 mths now and he is driving me CRRRRAZY!! He is extremely stubborn, very demanding, very active, and some days just says no to me all day long. Definite threenager in the making. I really have to figure out some new strategies for dealing with him because I lose my patience very easily.

Also, he was pretty much potty training (except at night) for three weeks. Then, I rewarded him with a toy truck, and now he refuses to poop in the potty. He'll hold it for days. PARENTING IS REALLY HARD RIGHT NOW!
 

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
so i need to put something out there - because i want to know if i'm being overly dramatic, but i think this is kinda crazy.

i suggested to some of the parents' of my son's class that we put together a 'fingerprint tree' as a keepsake for his teacher. if you would like to see an example of one, click HERE

this is the response i received from one of the parents:

"Because of the work I do, I’m a bit hyper-aware of the current assault on all privacy and how every scrap released into the world weakens the whole. I know, I know. It’s just an art project. I’ve just seen too many stories where innocent things turn into an achilles heel. What I know is that none of us have he imagination to see how one thing can lead to another in the future (especially as technology changes so quickly). So when I hear “fingerprints” it gives me pause.

Does it detract from the project if the fingerprints don’t have names (after all, she already knows who her class is and their fingerprints don’t in any way remind her of that individual student, not like a picture might)."

what do you guys think of this?
 

Liability

TRIBE Member
so i need to put something out there - because i want to know if i'm being overly dramatic, but i think this is kinda crazy.

i suggested to some of the parents' of my son's class that we put together a 'fingerprint tree' as a keepsake for his teacher. if you would like to see an example of one, click HERE

this is the response i received from one of the parents:

"Because of the work I do, I’m a bit hyper-aware of the current assault on all privacy and how every scrap released into the world weakens the whole. I know, I know. It’s just an art project. I’ve just seen too many stories where innocent things turn into an achilles heel. What I know is that none of us have he imagination to see how one thing can lead to another in the future (especially as technology changes so quickly). So when I hear “fingerprints” it gives me pause.

Does it detract from the project if the fingerprints don’t have names (after all, she already knows who her class is and their fingerprints don’t in any way remind her of that individual student, not like a picture might)."

what do you guys think of this?

I think it is a bit over the top, but to each their own. I guess their kid just can't participate.

I have to have some sympathy. We went for no screen time before the age of two and even now at almost 3 our daughter has yet to watch any real shows or movies. While we don't ask friends to turn off the TV, we did used to ask, expecialy if no one was watching. I think people thought we were a bit crazy too.
 
tribe cannabis accessories silver grinders

mariazmess

TRIBE Member
not wanting your child's cognitive development hampered vs. not wanting your child's fingerprints used or abused by...??

you, not psycho. that parent needs to be medicated to chill the fuck out.
 

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
not wanting your child's cognitive development hampered vs. not wanting your child's fingerprints used or abused by...??

you, not psycho. that parent needs to be medicated to chill the fuck out.

lol
thank you maria!
this isn't the first time something of this nature has happened with this kid.
i actually feel badly for him b/c i don't think his parents are doing him any favours, with their style of 'helicopter parenting'.
 

lucky1

TRIBE Member
I'm not a parent, but I work in criminal law and see how evidence, forensics and technology are changing, and how identity theft and other more heinous crimes are more prevalent then I ever would have imagined, until I worked where I do!

Yes your kid might still be small, but fingerprint scanners are already around, and could potentially become the "thing" that replaces PINs and bank cards etc. I don't think I'd want my kid to make finger print art. especially if it was a digital print type thing. I would make my kid wear a glove or something lol.
 

I_bRAD

TRIBE Member
not wanting your child's cognitive development hampered vs. not wanting your child's fingerprints used or abused by...??

you, not psycho. that parent needs to be medicated to chill the fuck out.

Yeah, everyone needs to be medicated and give up their personal data.

I wouldn't want my kid giving out his fingerprint either. Same reason they're not on facebook. And it's not "helicopter parenting" its responsible parenting. Don't feed the beast.
 

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
There are other things this family has done that had me label them as 'helicopter parents' long before this fingerprint incident.
At any rate, the child's father and I have come to an agreement that we will 'smudge' the fingerprints to make them less recognizable. it's still gets the point of the project across and is still thoughtful and less scary for those who have any concerns about giving out their child's fingerprint.
 
tribe cannabis accessories silver grinders
Top