still waiting for mine...Someone said something about a push present?
Something about calling it a push present bothers me - I can't put my finger on it. I do think that a gesture to say "I appreciate what you have done for our family and how much work it has been and will be" can be really sweet and meaningful. I can see how supportive that would feel to mums who are in that weird/vulnerable place after giving birth.seriously, i think it's warranted - it doesn't have to be big, but it should be something meaningful to show your appreciation for the awesome job she's done with the pregnancy and soon with the birthing and then with the caring for the baby. I know that the dads are far more involved now than ever caring for their babies and that's great, but the toll that a pregnancy / labour can take on a mother's body is really immense. Not to mention the emotional roller coaster before, during and afterward with the hormones and the overwhelming feelings and maybe not feeling happy about their body afterward or the changes that a new baby has brought to her life.
Sorry, no comparison to what the woman goes through (according to my bf at least). Things do even out as time goes on and for sure good partners also deserve appreciation but appreciating the mother doesn't have anything to do with minimizing the importance of the father/partner.How about the fact that he's been there every step of the way, he massaged her hips, he went to all the pregnancy classes with her, dealt with her mood swings, dealing with: "OMG, I am so fat" self-comments to herself while he finds her the most attractive woman ever, low sex drive while his balls are as big as Skydome and blue as the CN Tower night lights, he is going to be her guardian angel during labour/birth, he will wake up in the middle of the night and take turns with her with the baby, etc etc
Isn't that a push present enough? There are many women out there that are doing this all alone, which the dead beat fathers are out banging other broads. Having someone there for you throughout this journey should be enough of a blessing as it is and not taken for granted.
And where is HIS present for being a good supportive father?
And why should the guy feel like he has to compensate for something SHE needs to work through herself? How she feels and the emotional rollercoaster... etc etc... of course it's tough on the woman, but this is part of the journey of parenthood.
Sorry if I sound a little harsh, and I really don't care if I touched some nerves and pissed off some of you, but this push present is a little ridiculous. Come on now, man.
serenity nowLet me be really frank, it is YOUR job and your responsibility to carry this baby and deliver it, whether it's an easy pregnancy/delivery or not. I mean you DID know what you were getting yourself into, right?
Woman in this society seem to have forgotten this aspect and feel like they deserve a medal for something they were meant to do.
i'm guessing you are trying right now....and i can defiantely empathsize. trying to get pregnant and being unsuccessful at it, while everyone around you seems to be breeding like rabbits is insanity inducing. its a total mind f**k and takes a real toll on your emotions.In other news, I've been feeling really moody and sad lately. SAD maybe, but reading about baby #2 here and every where on Facebook is kind of pissing me off. Not your problem and I don't want you to edit yourselves EVER, but life just seems to be really in my face about how i'm NOT getting pregnant.
this is a very valid point killa, i like this a lot.men have their own journey of struggle and as far as I am concerned, the fact that they made it until the end without running as far away as possible is worthy of a "push present" as well.
that said, i will be interested to hear how you feel AFTER you've been through L&D. i'm sure you'll do great b/c you have a very positive attitude towards pregnancy, birth and parenting, but if one thing is for sure, it's that pregnancy, birth and parenting never go exactly as planned.Woman in this society seem to have forgotten this aspect and feel like they deserve a medal for something they were meant to do.
I read that after and thought "oh god I sound bitter" lol which I did not mean to at all.thanks dudes -- Iggs, thanks for the perspective.