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The I don't want babies thread

lucky1

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the title of thread kind of says it all so the warning is probably not needed.

sorry I'm probably being a douche but as someone who doesn't have kids for my own reasons it gets annoying to have people tell you all the time how much it "changes" things and "warning" you. It often comes across as they've been threw it so they're an expert and I've not so I don't know anything and need to be schooled type thing.
 

Metal Morphosis

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yeah - sorry lucky1
i guess my message was meant more for people who are sitting on the fence about becoming parents - that it's important to think it through and to consider many things, not just those first few years of madness. Obviously if you've already made up your mind then there's no need for people to warn you of the 'dangers' of becoming parents lol.
 

Techdruid

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^ [/Jimmy Fallon] EW.


I love this thread.

Every day I don't feel bad that I chose to not become some breeder. 'Nuff said.
 

Twinkle Toes

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I have never felt a need to have kids. I told my mom at 13 to not expect any grandchildren from me. She always told me I would change my mind.... I did not and I am 43.
 

ravinjunkie

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There was a time that I said I would like to have kids if they were older.

Currently, I'm looking after two 16 year old boys, holy crap, their "reasoning" and "logic" is fucking unbearable.

I'm glad I did not give my mom just a hard time as these two boys give me.
 

Beings

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mid 30s here, still no kids. Am a single child of eastern European parents. lol, I am starting to hate babies from all the pressure.



 

kyfe

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I just wanted to say I love having a kid. Didn't think I would and often found those preaching annoying, but it really is awesome.
 

I_bRAD

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I don't want babies either. Fortunately mine are toddlers and older now so we're good. Babies are a pain in the ass.
 

Techdruid

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Tonight's DocZone on CBC right now is fantastic.

"Fly1ng Solo"

We are increasingly choosing to become or stay single not only out of selfishness, but from skyrocketing divorce rates, social media, and the fact that women are financially sufficient. No longer need to pair with any lousy man to have a roof over your head , right? *snap*

... so we don't have babies. Why not adopt needy kids! If people call us selfish I'm pointing the finger back to those who truly need their own blood to procreate. And after adoption, let the immigrants take care of the rest if they so wish.
 

Fillmore

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The further i get into my 30's the more people i know are having babies and the more i get asked why i don't wan't kids. Even some recent dates i have gone on, the guys want my uterus to reproduce..ugh deal breaker.
i will not give in !! don't get me wrong, i do like kids, sometimes, but mostly they annoy me.
I have known i have not wanted kids since i was a kid, but more and more these days i feel i am becoming a rare breed.. always on my face book there is a new baby bump or fetus photos .. no your fetus photo is not cute its gross it looks like an alien with possibly two dicks and 3 heads. :rolleyes:
Anyway this is a rant about why not having babies is awesome, but sometimes annoying because of the pressure and guilt that people like to push on you.
My wife and I are with you on this! I think we are a rare breed these days when you look at facebook haha. Everyday there is a new picture of a baby or baby furniture or baby or child play dates. I am sure they like seeing my car pictures about as much as I enjoy their baby pictures ;)

My wife and I met 15 years ago and knew then we did not want children. Here we are 15 years later and we still feel the same way. We are currently discussing "who should have the operation". Dont get us wrong though, we certainly love and enjoy other peoples children. We have 5 beautiful nieces and 1 nephew on his way.
We love spending time with our nieces and we are known as the "cool aunt and uncle". However, we also love when its time to give them back to their parents.

We are often told by family and some friends that we are missing out and we will never find true happiness such as the happiness found in having children and completely living your life for another being. To love something more than yourself...etc etc. I get it, I can see the happiness my friends and family enjoy through their children but I I can't tell you enough how much that is not for me.

My wife and I find our own happiness in spending as much time together as we can, enjoying our success's together, being able to pick up and go wherever, whenever, being able to spend our hard earned money on ourselves and being able to sleep in whenever we want. Yes those happiness's may sound fickle to parents but that is what makes us happy.

I do tire of being judged though by parents who think there happiness is the only happiness out there. And how I "just don't get it". Listen, I do not judge you for you're life's decisions, so please do not judge me for mine. I will even babysit for you if you need me to?? lol
 

Wiseman

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I have kids and enjoy seeing your car pics! No judgement on your choices from this daddy. Besides, I bet you'd have ugly babies.
 

Metal Morphosis

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We are currently discussing "who should have the operation".
are you in Toronto? I have a really great urologist i can recommend (east end). he's totally minimally invasive for the guys. my husband drove himself to and from his appointment, he did not require any sedation.
not sure where the medical world is now with tying tubes, but pretty sure it's a way more invasive procedure than a vasectomy.
 

Fillmore

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I have kids and enjoy seeing your car pics! No judgement on your choices from this daddy. Besides, I bet you'd have ugly babies.
hahahah :D

I actually enjoy watching your children grow through facebook man! Its really the baby portion of their life that puts me off soo much. The young kids who can talk and walk I enjoy.

@metal morphosis - I would actually be very interested in obtaining that information. I am about to run out to a meeting but I will pm you later today.
 

Liability

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are you in Toronto? I have a really great urologist i can recommend (east end). he's totally minimally invasive for the guys. my husband drove himself to and from his appointment, he did not require any sedation.
not sure where the medical world is now with tying tubes, but pretty sure it's a way more invasive procedure than a vasectomy.
Could you send me this name. I was supposed to get this done last year and never got around to it.

Thanks.
 

Metal Morphosis

TRIBE Member
Dr Peter Vlaovic.
He works out of Toronto East General Hospital.
Here's his link - Toronto Urology
He became my urologist when i had kidney issues in my second pregnancy and i continue to see him once a year. I had my husband go see him after our second was born and his vasectomy was super fast and minimally invasive. I've sent a lot of other friends/husbands to him as well and have heard no complaints. Just ask your family doctor to refer you to him, you'll go in for a consult and then get booked for the procedure (usually at 2-3 week wait).
Think there's a vasectomy thread in the 'guy forum' you can search for - gives some additional info re: the procedure. Good luck!
 

peko

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My wife and I are with you on this! I think we are a rare breed these days when you look at facebook haha. Everyday there is a new picture of a baby or baby furniture or baby or child play dates. I am sure they like seeing my car pictures about as much as I enjoy their baby pictures ;)

My wife and I met 15 years ago and knew then we did not want children. Here we are 15 years later and we still feel the same way. We are currently discussing "who should have the operation". Dont get us wrong though, we certainly love and enjoy other peoples children. We have 5 beautiful nieces and 1 nephew on his way.
We love spending time with our nieces and we are known as the "cool aunt and uncle". However, we also love when its time to give them back to their parents.

We are often told by family and some friends that we are missing out and we will never find true happiness such as the happiness found in having children and completely living your life for another being. To love something more than yourself...etc etc. I get it, I can see the happiness my friends and family enjoy through their children but I I can't tell you enough how much that is not for me.

My wife and I find our own happiness in spending as much time together as we can, enjoying our success's together, being able to pick up and go wherever, whenever, being able to spend our hard earned money on ourselves and being able to sleep in whenever we want. Yes those happiness's may sound fickle to parents but that is what makes us happy.

I do tire of being judged though by parents who think there happiness is the only happiness out there. And how I "just don't get it". Listen, I do not judge you for you're life's decisions, so please do not judge me for mine. I will even babysit for you if you need me to?? lol
Good for you. You totally "get it", you can love a partner just as much as a child.

I have 2 kids and I get where you're coming from. Keep posting your car pictures and other exciting stories, please.

Parenting is the most intense experience of my life. I've been warned that the fucking fours are worse then terrible threes.... Delivery is a cakewalk compared to child rearing.
 

Blysspluss

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I want 'em. I figure I have a good lady(soon to be wife, once I get my act together and ask), and we have decent jobs. We live in a pretty great country to grow up in. It'd be nice to give a new person(or two) the same good start I had, loving people around 'em.

Not even sure we *can* have em due to some stuff. We may adopt if it comes to it.

(There's also a growing part of me that doesn't want them. That said it's my own selfishness. Not to say that this choice is selfish for others, not at all...I just know me.)
 
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