remember! just be yourself.

[mingster]

i know this might seem like a childish topic, cause well, when we're kids, this is drilled into our brain "just be yourself". but what does it mean? what did it mean to you when you were a kid?

when i was a kid, i remember thinking "how could i be anyone else other than me? that's impossible!" and "i only know how to be me, everything i do...it's ME doing it!".

and i remember hearing this when i started dating "just be yourself" he'll like me for who i am. bla bla.


as adults, we don't think about being ourselves as much. either we're supposed to have that figured out already (YEAH RIGHT!); we HAVE figured it out, are confident about it and don't really think about it; or regard it as a juvenile notion, one that represents an uneasyness, or lack of self-confidence, if not followed or if it's questionned.

but i think we are always changing, our selves are in motion. so how do you ensure that you always act yourself? how do you know you're being yourself? do you even know who you are yet? are you okay with not always being yourself? ie: trying different things, doing things out of character, etc. does this mean you're not being yourself? is it an acceptable practice for you as an adult?

does the notion even apply anymore? i think sometimes that it doesn't. or maybe it's just not concrete.

 

[Libradragon]

what the fuck was your point, mingster?

(i'm just being myself.)

 

[pr0nstar]

I go by.. "Try not to be yourself" I tend to scare people away.

 

[R4V4G3D_SKU11S]

Being yourself just means not worrying about what others think of as being optimal.

You make decisions based on what you think is the proper course of action, not what others perceive it to be.

 

[Boss Hog]

This is bad advice for me. Everytime I'm myself I'm an asshole.

 

[Mr_Furious]

A post like that belongs in a thread like this

http://www.tribemagazine.com/board/showthread.php?s=&threadid=58216

 

[Big Cheese]

reminds me on a Molson Canadian Ad

"You do what you do; the rest of the world will come around."

about not fronting, about not trying too hard

izzabout

being yourself, act the way you act and say what you say and do what you do because its what you say and do that makes you you


'G

 

[Ditto Much]

Originally posted by mingster

does the notion even apply anymore? i think sometimes that it doesn't. or maybe it's just not concrete.

When I was a child "be yourself" meant don't follow the crowd. Don't force yourself onto the trends of everyone else just to fit in, do what you do and if they like you they like you if they don't they don't. "by myself" meant that I was supposed to come up with my own solutions to my own problems, it meant that although others might criticize I need not validate there criticism.

Now a days "by myself" means something a little more classic. I compare it to "to thy own self be true" more and more. To be myself means not to conflict my ethics or morals, to hold my integrity. To solve my problems myself but not to solve them by doing the wrong thing just because its easier. It means more to me as a sign of integrity than as a symbol of individuality.

"be yourself"

Is more of a philosophical thing. To me it means that even if its going to burn my ass in the end, I should tell you the truth. Even when what I'm going to say or do isn't going to be popular its what I'm going to do or say because I believe it.

 

[Muad'ib]

No matter how much my interests and goals change the person that I am stays the same. Sometimes it is hard to see that part of yourself, but ask your friends and family who have known and loved you for a long time. They can help to show you the quintessential parts of who you are. I think that I have been basically the same person from Grade 8 until now. I have gone through many phases but underneath all the superficial differences the one consistant thing is me.

 

[kat]

Originally posted by basic
Being yourself just means not worrying about what others think of as being optimal.

You make decisions based on what you think is the proper course of action, not what others perceive it to be.

smrt

 

[OhNo!]

drink pepsi

 

[PosTMOd]

 

[mingster]

Originally posted by Muad'ib
No matter how much my interests and goals change the person that I am stays the same. Sometimes it is hard to see that part of yourself, but ask your friends and family who have known and loved you for a long time. They can help to show you the quintessential parts of who you are. I think that I have been basically the same person from Grade 8 until now. I have gone through many phases but underneath all the superficial differences the one consistant thing is me.

all the changes you experience are superficial?

isn't there anything that had changed since grade 8 that goes to the core of who you are?

 

[Agatka8]

Being yourself…means to me…that you don’t have to look around at what the other guy is doing… before you take your own step forward.
I think it’s all about sense of courage… and not feeling the need to impress anyone except yourself.
Not being afraid to make mistakes is being yourself.

I have never fit any mold… I have always felt a little out of place… but that has never stopped me from choosing my own path and my own way... even if it was unconventional.

 

[SneakyPete]

I thought this was going to be about Danny T.

 

[mingster]

Originally posted by PosTMOd

thanks for being you, timo.

 

[SuperKennyK]

In my experience, people who try to be someone they are not, usually end up looking like idiots.

I hate phonies.

 

[stir-fry]

Originally posted by PosTMOd

is that futronic in the background?

 

[seeker]

Originally posted by mingster
all the changes you experience are superficial?

isn't there anything that had changed since grade 8 that goes to the core of who you are?

maybe not superficial, but just timely manifestations of timeless qualities.

so things around you change, things you're involved in change, but you don't change.

 

[R4V4G3D_SKU11S]

KiFe.

 

[Moez]

HAHAHA!

I love that gif.

thanks Timo

(that's Kife in the background, btw)

 

[Finch]

And here's the bit that's going to cook your noodles!

What if it's in your nature to behave in direct violation of what you perceieve to be your personality? As in, what if you're only being yourself if you're trying to be something other than what you think you are?

Oooga booga! Eat that!

But seriously, I think it's totally in certain people's nature to emulate their surroundings in certain respects. And i don't mean over the long term - I mean, people actually change instantly dependant on who's around them and what those people are like. So are these chameleon people following the rules, and being 'themselves'?

Admittedly, I ask somewhat pointless questions.

Personally, I always looked at "being myself" as following my heart and doing what I thought was right - making my own decisions, having my own opinions, and being honest with people about who I really am. Not trying to impress people by behaving like someone else.

I found that the moment you reduce your level of caring about what other people think, and start just being you for better or worse, that's when you not only make friends - but you make friends you actually like too.

Finch.

 

[T13]

I hate fake people. I think it's ridiculous to change your views or opinions just to impress someone.

 

[mingster]

Originally posted by SuperKennyK
In my experience, people who try to be someone they are not, usually end up looking like idiots.

I hate phonies.

can you define "try to be someone else"?


is this someone who puts on a firehat when they aren't a fireman?

is this someone who lies about how much money they have and all the cool cars they've owed?

is this a white guy who talks like a jamaican? or all of the above?

 

[PosTMOd]

Originally posted by stir-fry
is that futronic in the background?

There's nobody in the background... oh, wait... no...yes....no...yes....no... yes...

It's patrick (Kife).