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people who make bad friends

CC

TRIBE Member
bare with my rambling here, i'm getting a little venting done.

now i had an unsettling situation last nite when i was out with a friend. she was in desperate need of some cheering up, so being that i was SO tired, i agreed to take her out for a little while (i was aiming to be in bed sleeping by 1am). what happens? she gets drunk, starts telling me off about something, and refuses to leave the bar. well, i'm not about to let a drunk female friend of mine stay in a meat market bar by themselves. she lived about a $30 cab ride away too, and she didn't have any money. so how the hell was she going to get home?!

so i had to try to play babysitter for someone who repeatedly was calling me an asshole for not leaving her there. but i can't leave her there, because it would have been unsafe for her. i got slapped twice and was told off more than any day of my life.

so what the fuck is this? why are some people FUCKING IDIOTS sometimes?

needles to say, i had to go my seperate way and leave her there, as she refused to get a ride home from me, and i decided to never speak with her again.

CC
 
Sounds like displaced anger to me.

I'd confront her about the behaviour and ask her what that bullshit was all about, in the interest of saving the friendship.

From the Ministry of my take

Prime Minister Highsteppa
 

CC

TRIBE Member
<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by el presidente Highsteppa:
Sounds like displaced anger to me.

I'd confront her about the behaviour and ask her what that bullshit was all about, in the interest of saving the friendship.

From the Ministry of my take

Prime Minister Highsteppa
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it's a tricky situation, and i'm considering just never talking to her again. it's been a long friendship, but whatever. i can say without a doubt that she is the worst human being i've ever met.

CC
 
<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by CC:
it's a tricky situation, and i'm considering just never talking to her again. it's been a long friendship, but whatever. i can say without a doubt that she is the worst human being i've ever met.

CC
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You can say that now, but you might feel different later. Give yourself a week and then see how you feel. If you still feel the same as you do now, don't bother. But if you feel differently, you might want to consider my advice.

From the Ministry of give yourself a week free of her, and don't accept any of her calls.

Prime Minister Highsteppa
 
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Lexicon

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she was drunk... drunk people don't reason, probably that explains it.

Let her know that you were looking out for her... when she sobers up, that is.
 

CC

TRIBE Member
well, after careful reflection, i can't think of the last time she did anything nice for me. drunk is no real excuse. if you're an ass when you're drunk, you're probably an ass deep down. she has a long track record of her being a mega bitch. this was just the last thing i'm willing to deal with. maybe there is some way to carry on the relationship. maybe if she turned into a different person i'd like her better.

why can't people just be decent friends? small slip ups is one thing, but shit like this is another.

CC
 

skyparty

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<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by CC:
needles to say, i had to go my seperate way and leave her there, as she refused to get a ride home from me, and i decided to never speak with her again.

CC
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ha, i'm no longer friends with a girl over many situations like this. she was jsut a bad friend, completely unreasonable at times, and completely selfish and blah blah blah i could on and on... i was friends with her because i thought that having a bunch of good friends would change her mood a bit and she would "turn around" but she never did and i (actually WE) had to drop her.

but that sitation sounds like exactly one of the last times i hung out with her.

i was tired, i had worked all night, and had to work in the morning. but since i couldnt make it out for her birthday the following night i said i'd go out with her after work (and after begging my boss to let me off early so i could go!)

well i'm following her to the bar and she can't even stay between 2 lines... ie: SHES HAMMERED. so when we get to the bar, and shes having another beer, and drops it, stumbles around... i tell her there's no way in hell she's driving home.

she's all spazzing calling me a bitch JUST LET ME DRIVE i'm FINE!!! so i got the bouncer to take her keys reminding him that if she crashes- THEY ARE LIABLE. well because some guy that's not even her boyfriend told her he wasn't going out to the bar that night she's all blaming on him HE DITCHED ME HE DITCHED ME when it wasnt liek that at all.

i mean ok, it doesnt sound bad at all but for real... you had to see her. all up in my face, with her finger pointing, screaming her head off, wailing her arms around- ready to kick my ass because i wouldn't give her her keys...

i was trying to be a friend.

i even offered to have her friend drive her car, and i follow and drive that girl home so she could still have her car home in the morning... NO she wouldnt have it calling e a cunt and whatever...

so i offered her money for a cab THREE TIMES no she wouldnt have it-- bitch, cunt, not a friend of mine, slut, blah blah blah... so i left her there- crying and telling everyone in the bar how i stole her keys and ditched her leaving her at the bar to walk home. which totally was not like that at all!

so fine, i left her with one last chance to either get in a cab, or get in my car. no-- fine.

you be that way--- i just didn't want to see you kill yourself because you are hammered and can't even drive in your own line- now only in your own line but in the oncoming cars line as well...

well whatever
theres no reasoning with drunk people sometimes.

narissa
 
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skyparty

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<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by CC:
well, after careful reflection, i can't think of the last time she did anything nice for me. drunk is no real excuse. if you're an ass when you're drunk, you're probably an ass deep down. she has a long track record of her being a mega bitch. this was just the last thing i'm willing to deal with. maybe there is some way to carry on the relationship. maybe if she turned into a different person i'd like her better.

why can't people just be decent friends? small slip ups is one thing, but shit like this is another.

CC
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i know EXACTLY what you're saying.

my thought is-- you want to be around people who are on true to you as you are to them.

if you are more frustrated with your friend than you are a FRIEND with them-- and you've tried and tried and tried to be cool about shit-- then i say it's time to LET GO of the friendship.

you'll be better off...
you don't need to deal with someone like that. and you are allowed to have friends come and go in your life...

like that chick i was bitching about that we dropped, me best frend was friends was her for 8 years before she finally realised it wasnt worth it.

sometimes, you jsut gotta do whats RIGHT for you. fuck her man-- she can't treat her fiends like that and expect to keep them around.

narissa
 

skyparty

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<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Jeffsus:
Maybe she really did want to be left alone.

Either way, you should have left her.
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when you are friends with someone- you stay as long as possible until you jsut can't anymore and take the risk of whatever happening to them- happening.

but as a friend-- you love them too much to just leave them right away.

CC- i woulda done the same thing

narissa
 

CC

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i knew i could count on kenny to cheer me up. thanks!!


well i might as well give a little more information on why i assume she wanted to stay longer. earlier in the night she ran into a guy that she kind of liked and he, knowing she was a bitch i suppose, wanted nothing to do with her. she got really upset, and even stated that it hurt more because it damaged her ego. from that point on, it appeared as though she was going to find a new guy, or die trying. so at first she wouldn't leave because she hadn't found anyone. she wasn't really even having fun, and she knew she had to get up at about 7:30. but i suppose she couldn't leave on a down note, so she wanted to stay. finally she found some guy, who seemed nice enough, but she threw herself at him. at this point, there was no way she was leaving. that's fucking bullshit.

CC
 

Mr_Furious

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I think i'd have to agree with James. If you've been friends with her for a while, you might want to reconsider your not talking to her anymore. Over the past few years I've had a lot of friends do a lot of really shitty things towards me, and so i've had to re-evaluate a lot of friendships. In most cases I ended up staying friends but I'd never do anything for them that they wouldn't do for me.
 
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My exgirlfriend used to do the same thing. She wasn't a bad person but when she got drunk she whould turn into such a bitch. She like your friend has a lot of problems emotionally and the alcohol brings it out.
I suggest you do talk to her today, cause if you are going to take that much shit, you might as well get made up to by her.
 
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