Parental corpral punishment thread?

[echootje]

This isn't an agree or disagree with it thread, this is more of a fact finding mission

• Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
• What did they use
• What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
• What did you do
• What's your background
  [/list=a]
  
  My answers:
  a) Yes, my brother learned what NOT to do from me... little punk. He snitched on me too!
  b) Sometimes a belt, stick, shoe, and even hand
  c) Bamboo switch on my hand from my Aunt (RIP she was oldschool ) for my bad manners LOL
  d) Usually stuff like fighting with my brother, or the first few times I swore (until my Mum relaxed a little and started using soap )
  e) English - so my dad got the switch in school and my mum
  
  Rob

 

[The Watcher]

a: Never Been Spanked
b: My Mom raised a wooden spoon to me once, and I gave her a knife to use instead. She never did that every again. I was so sorry for that day.
d: I was rebelling, trying to get a rise out of her, and I used psychological warefare against her.
e: French Canadian


I was raised with a HUGE conscience, all that my dad ever had to do to punish me was tell me he was disapointed in me, and it would destroy me.

My Parents are quite possibly the best anyone could ever ask for.

I love them so.
Nick

 

[kerouacdude]

Yes
Bare Hand, Shoe, Wooden Spoon, Cutting Board, Belt
Prob. hafta go with the shoe
Swearing, curfew, general subordination
Italo/Anglo background

 

[Plato]

Originally posted by echootje

• Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
• What did they use
• What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
• What did you do
• What's your background
  [/list=a]

• 
  
  yes
  belt, flip-flops, wooden spoons, hands, etc.
  well i used to think the spoons but i've been noticing others were also subjected to that treatment
  i displayed a different opinion and for it i woudl get punished
  latin
  
  p[l]a+0

 

[JayIsBored]

Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
yes

What did they use
hand or a kick in the ass when running to my room

What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
16 inch dildo but that just happened this weekend

What did you do
i went rummaging through libradragon's drawers and she caught me..oh wait you're talking about as a child...either from fighting with the siblings or going somewhere in the neighborhood without telling them

What's your background
continuous, like in cheaply animated cartoons

 

[deep]

Originally posted by JayIsBored
Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
yes

What did they use
hand or a kick in the ass when running to my room

What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
16 inch dildo but that just happened this weekend

What did you do
i went rummaging through libradragon's drawers and she caught me..oh wait you're talking about as a child...either from fighting with the siblings or going somewhere in the neighborhood without telling them

What's your background
continuous, like in cheaply animated cartoons

bwahahahah

 

[OTIS]

Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
Yes until I was 11/12 or so.

What did they use
Treebranch, whip, belt, wooden spoons, shoes, hands whatever was within reach.

What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
Look above.

What did you do.
Got home a few minutes late was the reason most of the time.

What's your background
Italian.

 

[deep]

a. yes
b. a whole pile of shit beyond the usual suspects (i.e. rings on fists or easily at hand objects)
c. never stopped surprising me
d. beats the fuck out of me
e. east indian

 

[el presidente Highsteppa]

Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
Yes.

What did they use
Nothing more than their hand, which is big enough when you're a little tyke

What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
Someone else's hand

What did you do
Pushed my limits and probably just acted like a little shit.

What's your background
English

From the Ministry of the Rotan caning

Prime Minister Highsteppa

 

[geminigirl]

Never...Not Once!!

You cannot have a thread like this and think that nobody is going to comment on such a touchy issue....It's terrible that a child has to go through horrible shit like that!...If people only knew how damaging it is for children to be a part of corporal punishment. Some people should not of had children in the first place if they think that children are there to kick around when they are not acting appropriately...your job is to help guide them to the appropriate behaviour... disciplining in a positive fashion...parent's need to use more positive reinforcement methods...children deserve respect...you can discipline a child without using physical force...there is nothing positive about hitting a child...it is a very ignorant(uneducated) way to deal with your child...when you deal with your child with love, care and respect your result is a child who respects and loves themselves and you and helps you and your child have a tighter bond.

I could write so much more...this being my area of Education but must go to work!

~Maxine~

 

[Rosey]

Originally posted by echootje
This isn't an agree or disagree with it thread, this is more of a fact finding mission

• Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?
• What did they use
• What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with
• What did you do
• What's your background
  [/list=a]

• 
  
  • yes
  • hand
  • nothing wierd, just hand
  • long list of negative behaviour usually fighting with my brother or at school
  • canadian (irish/scottish)
    [/list=b]
    
    the important questions would be:
    do you resent them for spanking you? no, if anything a few more mighta helped. i resent them for the emotional and verbal games they played to fuck with my head. my parents are guilt trip grand masters.
    would you spank your kids in similar circumstances? yes, 4 billion years of evolution has left us with pain as an excellant negative stimulous, why mess with success?

 

[Bumbaclat]

Originally posted by echootje
This isn't an agree or disagree with it thread, this is more of a fact finding mission

• Did your parents ever spank you for being bad? Yes
• What did they use? Parents - hand, School - metre stick
• What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with? nothing really
• What did you do? assorted crimes and misdemeanors
• What's your background? Ukrainian/Irish
  [/list=a]
  

 

[Rosey]

Originally posted by geminigirl
Never...Not Once!!

You cannot have a thread like this and think that nobody is going to comment on such a touchy issue....It's terrible that a child has to go through horrible shit like that!...If people only knew how damaging it is for children to be a part of corporal punishment. Some people should not of had children in the first place if they think that children are there to kick around when they are not acting appropriately...your job is to help guide them to the appropriate behaviour... disciplining in a positive fashion...parent's need to use more positive reinforcement methods...children deserve respect...you can discipline a child without using physical force...there is nothing positive about hitting a child...it is a very ignorant(uneducated) way to deal with your child...when you deal with your child with love, care and respect your result is a child who respects and loves themselves and you and helps you and your child have a tighter bond.

I could write so much more...this being my area of Education but must go to work!

~Maxine~

it's nice that you have such strong feelings on the issue, but that's all they are, feelings. the belief that spanking a child, inflicting a minor amount of pain without injury somehow inflicts permenant psychic damage to a child is just that, an unsubstantiated belief.

my mother has a PhD in psychology (specifically child psychology - and has worked as a child psychologist her entire adult life). my father has a EdD (Doctorate of Education). between them they spilt 8 degrees all relating to the human mind, social interaction and childhood development. neither is ignorant or uneducated, neither of them sees anything wrong with spanking.

i think it is important to distinguish between a spanking (getting a couple of swats on your butt with a hand or a wooden spoon or whatever when you are misbehaving) and beatings/child abuse. they are not the same.

although i have plenty of issues with my parents, none of them relate to being spanked, nor do i ever think that they truly ever hit me out of anger.

 

[Subsonic Chronic]

My dad spanked me when I was a kid. It only happened when I was really young, he never used any foreign objects, and I don't think that it affected me in any seriously negative way. When I did get spanked it wasn't just his way of getting kicks, usually I was up to no good with my bro.

Mind you, I don't plan on ever using corporal punishment when (if?) I have kids.

Pete

 

[mingster]

Originally posted by Rosey

it's nice that you have such strong feelings on the issue, but that's all they are, feelings. the belief that spanking a child, inflicting a minor amount of pain without injury somehow inflicts permenant psychic damage to a child is just that, an unsubstantiated belief.

my mother has a PhD in psychology (specifically child psychology - and has worked as a child psychologist her entire adult life). my father has a EdD (Doctorate of Education). between them they spilt 8 degrees all relating to the human mind, social interaction and childhood development. neither is ignorant or uneducated, neither of them sees anything wrong with spanking.

i think it is important to distinguish between a spanking (getting a couple of swats on your butt with a hand or a wooden spoon or whatever when you are misbehaving) and beatings/child abuse. they are not the same.

although i have plenty of issues with my parents, none of them relate to being spanked, nor do i ever think that they truly ever hit me out of anger.

Not that I disagree with you Rosey, as my views on spanking are still flexible, but there are many practices in child rearing and discipline and many schools of thought that are now disregarded...spanking might be one of them...?

Ming.

 

[MBoy]

I was spanked.
But not with objects
When I crossed my parents.

 

[stir-fry]

i got all HOT inside when my parents spanked me..

 

[mingster]

Originally posted by stir-fry
i got all HOT inside when my parents spanked me..

You're fucking sick.

Ming.

 

[stir-fry]

Originally posted by mingster


You're fucking sick.

Ming.

you *DO* know i was joking right??


in answering the topic

Did your parents ever spank you for being bad?

- of course they did


What did they use

- mostly a hand across the ass


What's the wierdest thing you've ever been spanked with

- a broom


What did you do

- it was almost always a result of me and my brother fighting with each other


What's your background

- born here, parents are irish. spanking is a VERY integral part of raising a child in Ireland.

 

[Rosey]

Originally posted by mingster

Not that I disagree with you Rosey, as my views on spanking are still flexible, but there are many practices in child rearing and discipline and many schools of thought that are now disregarded...spanking might be one of them...?

some people have disregarded it, yes. that doesn't make it wrong. there is more than one school of thought on the subject.

 

[echootje]

Originally posted by geminigirl
Never...Not Once!!

You cannot have a thread like this and think that nobody is going to comment on such a touchy issue....It's terrible that a child has to go through horrible shit like that!...If people only knew how damaging it is for children to be a part of corporal punishment. Some people should not of had children in the first place if they think that children are there to kick around when they are not acting appropriately...your job is to help guide them to the appropriate behaviour... disciplining in a positive fashion...parent's need to use more positive reinforcement methods...children deserve respect...you can discipline a child without using physical force...there is nothing positive about hitting a child...it is a very ignorant(uneducated) way to deal with your child...when you deal with your child with love, care and respect your result is a child who respects and loves themselves and you and helps you and your child have a tighter bond.

I could write so much more...this being my area of Education but must go to work!

~Maxine~

Oh yeah now that you mention it all those memories of my dissafected troubled youth are surfacing... How could I have forgotten Sounds silly but this is you being exactly like religious book-censors banning books but never having read them. I'm not talking about beatings which I never received, but spanking on the ass.

Ask 'your elders' if they were ever spanked, and see if they came out alright? See if they resented it.

Further to Rosey's questions:
Do i resent my parents for the way they brought me up --> no not at all, they did everything well and I'm rpoud of them for the way I turned out.
Would you spank your children --> Not for fun, which seems to be geminigirl's impression but if something was warranted... yes. (ie when my mum caught me with stolen stuff)

 

[janiecakes]

a. yes. (on probably less than 5 occasions)

b. my mum's hand.

c. i've only ever been spanked with a hand.

d. i don't remember.

e. canadian, mostly irish

i probably won't spank my kids, it wasn't all that effective with me, and i think i'd feel pretty weird about it. having said that, i don't fault my mum for spanking my ass a few times, i don't think it's a huge deal.

i think using physical discipline regularly on your kids is pretty whack, but i also think that other shit parents do to their kids (like screaming at them, being impatient with them, playing mind games like rosey talked about, etc) can be just as shitty.

 

[janiecakes]

Originally posted by echootje

Ask 'your elders' if they were ever spanked, and see if they came out alright? See if they resented it.

well, if i asked my grandparents, who were both disciplined with pretty heavy physical force, they would probably say they didn't resent it, and they would say they turned out alright.

but if i asked my mother, who was also disciplined the same way, she would say she totally resented it and that it's caused some pretty major problems between her and her parents.

different generations see physical discipline in different ways. what lots of us see as child abuse today (ie. hitting a kid with a belt) our grandparents would see that as a normal part of bringing up a kid. i see why you're getting frustrated with the anti-spanking camp but i think it's kind of a grey area.

 

[kerouacdude]

what happened to the original purpose of this thread?
Start another thread if you want to debate corporal punishment - it was more interesting to see what kind of reasons were given for corporal punishments, methods used, and ethnicities, and let everyone draw their own conclusions.

 

[janiecakes]

who cares?

it's totally related to the topic. it's not like people are in here talking about corned beef and cabbage sandwiches.