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If you die ...

Discussion in 'TRIBE Main Forum' started by Soundstream, Feb 26, 2002.

  1. Soundstream

    Soundstream TRIBE Member

    ... how would people find out about your funeral?

    I've always wondered this as a serious question. I think If I were to die right now, I'd probably have an attendance of about 10 people at my funeral. My family would know, as I am sure they would be easy to contact.

    But how would anyone else find out that you were dead? I mean your dead, so it is not like you can change your voicemail message to let them know.

    My roommate might eventually find out once he noticed that I didn't come home for several nights in a row. And even once he did find out, he wouldn't know how to contact anyone to let them know.

    And not too many people my age tend to read the births/deaths column in the paper everyday.

    So how would anyone find out?

    Cheers ... Ian :)
  2. Boo

    Boo TRIBE Member

    Put it in the upcoming events forum....

    Make sure it has a TRIBE logo on it though :p
  3. seeker

    seeker TRIBE Member

    the great disturbance in the Force, of course. :p
  4. OTIS

    OTIS TRIBE Member

    can i get your beemer?
  5. Soundstream

    Soundstream TRIBE Member

    Just a sec ... let me update my will.

    I guess my parents would get all my stuff. But what about the safe? No one knows the combination, so would they just toss it? Or brfeak into it?

    Cheers ... Ian :)
  6. twist

    twist TRIBE Member

    when I die I will die alone and no one will know or care. I will be buried in my clans cemetary in scotland in a nameless grave. ces't la vie.:)
  7. Brandon

    Brandon TRIBE Member

    My wife would probably tell somebody, unless of course she was behind it all (although that isn't likely because I'm still worth more to her alive than dead).

  8. daddyiwantchocolate

    daddyiwantchocolate TRIBE Member

    what a funny thread (the responses, anyway).

    Um. If I died - I'm sure it would take while for people to figure it out.....

    And I don't know who would tell my parents, since none of my friends have ever met them, or even know where they are (I hardly even know where they are half the time).

    So, I guess, someone (when it was determined that I was dead) would have to break into the house, smash the security system and then root around for the Unit's contact info. Hopefully the keys to the cars/safety deposit boxes/mail boxes etc would be on my body, 'cause there's no copies ;)

    What a fucking fiasco that would be!?!?

    I have no family in this country, so I guess my cat would have to starve until the units flew in from butt-fuck africa to feed it.

    Luckily, all my investments have pater as my beneficiary, so he'd be able to afford the flyers for my funeral. Although, as I mentioned, they don' t know any of my friends, so I'm sure no one would come :) LOL
  9. acheron

    acheron TRIBE Member

    This is exactly why it's important for _anyone_, no matter how old they are, to have either a will or a letter of instruction left in the care of a close relative or friend that explains your wishes should the unthinkable occur.

    A will is a no-brainer - even if you don't have any property currently, updating it every five years or so or when a major event occurs like buying a house, or having a child... it includes basic instructions for distributing your 'assets' (such as they may be) to significant individuals.

    But for a young person who doesn't have any real assets, it is ALSO important to write up a letter of instruction that includes the names of people who should be notified of your demise. Most people's parents will know their kid's best friends - and may even know their phone numbers/addresses. Think about who you know who has the most connections to people you would want to know about your death, and indicate their name and info on the letter so your next of kin can notify them.
  10. depraved

    depraved TRIBE Member

    Morbid stuff...

    I'm not having a funeral, so there wouldn't be any funeral to find out about.

    In the event my body is found, my will instructs where to scatter my ashes...so only what little family survives me would know of my passing.

    - Greg
  11. Soundstream

    Soundstream TRIBE Member

    I figured my parents would find out eventually as the police could probably track them down fairly easily (if I had ID on me when I died). But they know none of my friends, so they would not be able to inform anyone else.

    I think I am gonna try an experiment in the near future.

    Cheers ... Ian :)
  12. Chiclet

    Chiclet TRIBE Promoter

    Well, I'm back living with mums so whoever phones my house would find out... my brother would tell all our friends, people would wonder why my celly was out of service... my mom's friends would know, her 5 siblings and their families, my grandparents, dad's sister, my promoters would know...

    not to mention the orbituaries...If you really think about it, there's so many ways people would find out. My mom's been to so many funerals and she mostly found out about them through word-of-mouth. Relatives, friends, acquaintances... you name it, she's gone to pay her respects.
  13. Soundstream

    Soundstream TRIBE Member

    But that is kind of my point ... in my case, there is zero connection between my family and anyone that I might socialize, so the "word of mouth" method would be ineffective.

    I am sure the situation is different if you are married, or live with your parents, etc. But when you are on your own and your family and friends have no knowledge of each other at all, my guess is that people would not find out about your death untill well after it happened.

    Cheers ... Ian :)
  14. Chiclet

    Chiclet TRIBE Promoter

    I'm sure one of your good friends would be wondering where you were in a matter of of a day or two... then spread the word. That's how my mom found out about some of her old acquanitances. Plus, if you work anywhere, your boss would be looking for you. It's crazy how quickly word spreads.
  15. Eclectic

    Eclectic TRIBE Member

    I think eveyone I know would know when I died....

    I can see myself dying in some spectacular fashion....like being hit by lightning, skydiving mis-hap, crashing a plane into a bui.......

    Um......nah, nobody will notice when I finally kick the bucket.
  16. Soundstream

    Soundstream TRIBE Member

    I only really have like a couple of friends. They don't call me on that regular of a basis, so it wouldn't be abnormal for them to not get in contact with me for a week or so. And even if they couldn't get in contact with me, they'd probably just think I was trying to avoid them or something.

    They'd probably notice after maybe 3 or 4 days. But even so, the only people they could contact are my parents, and they'd already know about it.

    Cheers ... Ian :)
  17. Respect

    Respect TRIBE Member

    General question: who would you want to do you eulogy?

    (Not that it'd matter... unless we can be looking down arm in arm with yoda a la ben kenobi...)
  18. Plato

    Plato TRIBE Member

    i think about this a lot actually. i dont carry id with me, no cards, not even a library card. so when i get run over or fall dead in the streets and people gather round they wont know who i am.
    papers will read "unidentified male dead." and no one will know who i am.
    since my parents dont subscribe to any newspapers. and they dont read news. they watch news.

    but i doubt i'll make it onto cnn.

    but eventually some friends will come along an image of my blodied mangled body on the streets and realize that im dead and not ignoring them.
    like im not ignoring your thread right now.
    yay god!
    (i love how i tied those 2 things together at the end! i rock! :D )

  19. Cheeka

    Cheeka TRIBE Member

    ya right it would take me about 24 hours chicky.
    if I hadn't heard from you in a full 24... you must be dead.

    eww horrible topic... :(
  20. MalGlo

    MalGlo TRIBE Member

    interesting question...

    but in your case specifically.. your place of work would find out rather quickly.. wherein your boss would obviously find out... wherein cri would find out immediately and would inform anyone that you knew..

    your covered ian, relax:)

    and about the safe... that would be at the descretion (sp?) of whoever takes over your estate.. i would expect they would probably break into it...


  21. MalGlo

    MalGlo TRIBE Member

    btw ian.. as an afterthought.. if you did have a will.. as part of that will you could state that you have a safe with personal belongings which would you not want anyone to see and that you would like it destroyed; and that should be carried out.

  22. joey

    joey TRIBE Member

    well your parents can always look at your address book or contacts...

    of course there would be an obituary...

    and once one person hears about it they will tell another and they will tell two more and so on and so forth..
  23. DJAlchemy

    DJAlchemy TRIBE Promoter

    I think this question has much more value to the people who have to deal with your death. Personally you can creamate me and donate my body parts if you want to, it doesn't really matter at that point. Anything that I would care about regarding my death shall be contained within my will.

    Peace & love. D
  24. PosTMOd

    PosTMOd Well-Known TRIBEr

    Look, if you wake up dead tomorrow, it'll really be the least of your worries.
  25. Skipper

    Skipper TRIBE Member

    I think it would really depend on HOW you died...I wondered about this question too - I mean, if I went somewhere on business that I don't usually go, and I left my hotel room to whip down to the corner store and just took a $5 bill for a snack with no ID, and was then hit by a BUS - how on earth would they ever figure out who I am??? (provided they didn't trace me back to my hotel or whatever.)

    I think in the event I died, once my parents knew, my close friends would know, and then they would know the type of places to find other friends of mine. Close friends who post on Tribe would post on whatever message board they knew I frequented. They'd open my computer, and email everyone in my address book. They'd call everyone stored on my cell phone. And they'd ask all those people to tell people they knew who might also know me.

    It's a small world.

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