3Michlerish said:That's because guys are idiots.
Guy does something wrong.
Girl finds out.
Girl says "OMG... YOU did THIS!??!? I can't believe you _______ !!!"
Girl gives guy the silent treatment cause she's pissed but doesn't want to start a fight.
Guy waits a long time.
Guy goes up to girl and says "Is something wrong?"
Girl thinks this dude is an idiot for not remembering what had JUST happened prior to her not talking to him, but realizes that bringing it up would now be starting at square one because dude is so clueless.
Girl says "Ugh. no. I'm fine."
Guy says "Are you mad?"
Girl is thinking WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK?
So basically, guys are just stupid.
an aquired skill that personally took me several relationships to figure out. interestingly, my wife and i, while having our fair share of disagreements, have never had an all out fight (shouting, name calling, general juvenille behaviour). when tensions run high, bother of us know when to back off, and come back later.Ms. Fit said:you're kind of on the right track..
in in all seriousness- sometimes men just need to learn how to back down from an argument because i know that for myself and other females i know, we will beat the fuck out of a topic. man, i would really be so appreciative of a guy came back at me with "i don't agree with you, but i'm trying very hard to see where you're coming from.." and/or just takes a timeout before the argument gets too heated.
it would be a lot better than him trying to assert his manly, know-it-all condensation which really clashes with my inability to let go of a topic that i really care about.
but that's just me.
No you're not alone. Chances of changing the way men think are slim to none though - so you gotta go with plan B: vent to someone else who WILL listen. It is ideal to be able to tell your man everything - but shit it causes way more things to vent about in the end and you'll just end up drinking yourself to oblivion. (oh wait...that was me!)Skipper said:Perhaps I am alone in not needing a man to solve my every problem for me!