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Girls, do you get pissed off when your guy doesn't come to bed with you?

Sal De Ban

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ummm. the answer to your dilemma is pretty obvious:


drug her.


You could do this 2 ways: drugs to keep her up, or drugs to put her down so she doesn't wake up when you go to bed.


I don't think you really have a choice.
just don't give her sleeping pills and laxatives at the same time.
 

IgStar

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NO!!!! AS a matter of fact, I prefer to go to bed first, alone, so that I can GET to sleep. Otherwise, he snores, breathes really loudly and hogs the bed. If I'm already alseep, I don't notice any of it.

yup.
I am the world's worst sleeper (borderline insomniac) I need to be in total silence (sleep with earplugs)...I swear I can hear water drip 3 rooms away from me....so, if I'm hittin' the sack early, I need to do it alone b/c it takes me a long fucking time to fall asleep vs. someone whos head hits the pillow and 2 min they're sawing mad logs.
I need a headstart or it's couch city for me. Apparently, I have been a horrible sleeper since birth according to my mom. I'm lucky if I get 4-5hrs a night.
 
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MissBlu

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i dunno.

i go to bed pretty early, so i don't really expect anyone to go to bed with me. however, i guess if they wanted to get laid they would and then just get back to whatever it is boys do when their girlfriend is sleeping.

i'm pretty easy at falling asleep and staying asleep, but their better be some kind of help should you wake me up, cuz that's when i go crazy.

i don't know if i've always been like this because i don't really remember anymore, and i've been sleeping alone for awhile now.

i don't think its fair that she gets livid or calls you irresponsible for not going to bed when she wants you too.

i'd be pissed if you lost your job because you were late due to sleeping in, but if its all good, then its all good.
 

sk8

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I'm on the "don't care when he comes to bed" side of things. "bedroom activities" don't have to happen right at bedtime and not necessarily in the bedroom, so I find that's really a non-issue.

I can fall asleep with him there or without, if he wants to stay up until 3am playing modern warfare he can darn well do that downstairs where I can't hear him. Much rather that then him not being tired and tossing around or watching TV next to me!
 

rawd

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I'm on the "don't care when he comes to bed" side of things. "bedroom activities" don't have to happen right at bedtime and not necessarily in the bedroom, so I find that's really a non-issue.

I can fall asleep with him there or without, if he wants to stay up until 3am playing modern warfare he can darn well do that downstairs where I can't hear him. Much rather that then him not being tired and tossing around or watching TV next to me!
haha welcome to my wife, i mean life
 

loopdokter

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I guess I was just trying to come to some sort of consensus to see if this was common for women. She's the first gf I've ever lived with.
 
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derek

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i'm the early riser and usually in bed first. sara doesn't come to bed until about 2hrs later (2am or so), but i sleep through wars, so it ain't no thing.

conversely, when i'm the one up later, sara doesn't care, i could come to bed at any time and it wouldn't bother her.

not an issue in our household.

good luck.
 

saskboy

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just tuck her in (stop what you're doing and devote some attention to her) if your not ready to go to sleep yourself
 
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Mrs. Pink

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ya, my wife hates it if i don't go to bed when she does. i'm never really tired when she is, so it's difficult for me to fall asleep.....i like to watch some TV before sleeping. It can be tough.
 

IgStar

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I just don't get it. I mean, sure if you are wanna be all cuddly...but really..if he's not tired when I am than why would I get mad if he doesn't feel like laying there awake?
 

Booty Bits

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i prefer it when i get to fall asleep alone. my ideal situation is going to bed solo, going through my ridiculous sleep routine, finally falling asleep about 45 minutes later, and then my boyfriend coming into the room about an hour after that!!

i am a crappy sleeper, so this is the only way i can guarantee a good night's sleep.
 

grumblegirl

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I never cared if my bf came to bed with me at the same time as long as he sorta tucked me in, until I caught him cybering with randoms whenever he stayed up late. :O

So yeah - now I'm not much of a fan of the different bedtimes, but that's just baggage, really - there's no logic behind it.

Perhaps she had such an experience with an ex?
 

erika

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Haha. I can tippy toe in to bed and I'd still wake her up. She's a pretty light sleeper in some ways, but sleeps soundly when I'm snoring and she's asleep. I keep her awake if I fall asleep before her and start to snore.

I think it's comfort thing for her. She has a sixth sense or something when I'm not in the room even if she's asleep.

She's cool in many other aspects and I love her to bits. This is just one issue of the very few things we can't seem to agree upon.
Not sure about the sixth sense thing, but being a very light sleeper I`ve always found it difficult to have someone arrive in the bedroom when I was sleeping. I don`t get the part about her sleeping soundly when you snore though - that doesn`t jive.

She may be yanking your chain, but if you do love her to bits, ask her what it is about it that bothers her, and suggest the separate bedrooms thing - it`s worked for many people for centuries.
 
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loopdokter

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She may be yanking your chain, but if you do love her to bits, ask her what it is about it that bothers her, and suggest the separate bedrooms thing - it`s worked for many people for centuries.
Sadly, we don't have bedrooms to spare. We have a pullout coach and that's a serious downgrade to our king bed. Haha.

I've asked her and her logic is that because I'm not around, she can't sleep. Since she can't sleep, she gets cranky due to lack of sleep. She grew up with always sharing a room with her sister (shut up), so I think it's largely a comfort thing than baggage. To me it still makes no sense!
 

veteze

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i know k likes it when we go to bed at the same time. i don't think she dislikes it when we don't. maybe mildly, but i've been going to bed way later than her for years so i dunno.
 

L'ilMisSunshine

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I guess I was just trying to come to some sort of consensus to see if this was common for women. She's the first gf I've ever lived with.
I've been that girl before with boyfriends. My experience was that guys get up to stuff after I went to bed, like porn & masturbating, or msn chats with ex-girlfriends or whatever they wouldn't do in front of me. I felt like I lost out - on sex or attention. But now I'm older & wiser (& more cynical) and I realize I can do very little to change someone. So no point in getting upset about it ... either you suck it up or you move on.
 
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