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Forgot a birthday but don't care... wrong?

Krzysiu

TRIBE Member
Arg, I totally spaced on a birthday! But I don't feel too guilty about it... is that wrong?

Here's the background: This guy and I were extremely good friends in unversity, dueling martini glasses and liver damage. After moving to toronto, I came with the expectation of living with him, set out to find a house for us while he sneakily went and took up residence with two other people without telling me, encouraging me to keep looking for houses and basically made my summer a smelly pile of grade "A" bullshit. Very smelly! Oh, and one time he passed out on Vinder's roof and we left him there to go down to pride to dance the night away. After he surreptitiously betrayed me in the housing plans, I was royally pissed off and promised to never have anything to do with him again... then he bought me booze and all was forgiven... sorta.

We sorta stayed friends but not nearly as close as we were before... lies doused the passionate loyalty I once held for him... yes, the esteem was gone, but it didn't mean we could couldn't shoot the shit once in a while.

Well, after partying with exceptional gusto this weekend, my immune system said "fuck you buddy" and I got a cold. Betrayed again, this time by my own white blood cells... and I spent all monday in bed, drinking tea and looking at porn. REST CURE!! and forgot to call him to say "Happy Birthday".

I've left a message saying "whoops, sorry for spacing" but having a bit of mixed emotional response... should I feel guilty about forgetting a friends birthday? I mean, he did bone up my summer/fall pretty fierce with his little game of deciet, but on the otherhand, I like cake and candles and birthday cheer in general and we were extremely close before the dramage. Am I being petty and should grow up, suck it up and be his friend again, be as close as we were last year when we were too peas in a bod, best buddies, secret-handshake-to-get-into-the-honeycomb-hideout-you-can't-come friends?

I just don't feel so bad about forgetting his birthday and now I'm feeling guilty about NOT feeling guilty, does that makes sense?
 

dillpickle

TRIBE Member
I forgot my mom's birthday on Sunday, don't feel so bad, thank gawd for belated b-day cards and pretty flowers...you may want to skip on the flowers, unless..you know...he likes them n' stuff.
 

Krzysiu

TRIBE Member
I left a voice mail saying "IOU bday drinks" and shrugged it off... I feel like I should have felt more remorse for forgetting, but don't.
 

Thumpr

TRIBE Member
krzysiu this is the first time i've seen you post anything even close to being heartless and cold.


i love it.
 
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judge wopner

TRIBE Member
Krzysiu said:
I left a voice mail saying "IOU bday drinks" and shrugged it off... I feel like I should have felt more remorse for forgetting, but don't.
id have no ill feeligs even to a best friend if they forgot my b-day but took theeffort to say "hey sorry i fogot let me buy you drink to make it up to you"
its no big deal forgetting, but it is a big deal i think to not be willing to acknowledge it, unless you just really dont give a shit about the guy and you forgetting this year sets the stage for the gradual erosion where you end up both ignoring eachothers b-day.
 

Krzysiu

TRIBE Member
yeah, thats what I'm sorta worried is happening, cause I'm a friend who makes a strong effort to keep up with these things and expects others to do the same... since i don't give a crap his bday, maybe I don't give a crap about him now.
 

Bumbaclat

TRIBE Member
Gawd damn man, people who make a big deal over there birthday past the age of 19 fucking suck. "It's my birthday week, you have to be there for the whole thing".

Don't feel bad, I certainly wouldn't. I don't expect a phone call on my birthday, nor do I make phone calls on my friends birthdays. My gf and I barely celebrate each others birthdays.
 

kuba

TRIBE Member
but don't you put on a week long celebration for charlie the boxer?



I can't get over how aaaa-DUUUUUUUH this dog looks!

and his tongue_ does it still stick out like a middle finger after road rage?
 
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Booty Bits

TRIBE Member
people who make a big deal about people missing their birthdays are total suckbags and should be taken out back and shot.
newsflash: life doesn't revolve around you!
plus, this guy was such a douche this summer.
 
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Thumpr

TRIBE Member
Booty Bits said:
people who make a big deal about people missing their birthdays are total suckbags and should be taken out back and shot.
newsflash: life doesn't revolve around you!
plus, this guy was such a douche this summer.

umm, thats just really fucked up of you to say.
 

kuba

TRIBE Member
Bumbaclat said:
If it makes you (and obviously me) feel better I got a Dangerous Dan Brontorib out of the freezer and gave it to him.
Dude. That stuff can kill a man. i'm not kidding. DD's is like, heartattack comin' right up.

Watch his health.
 
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lucky1

TRIBE Member
meh.. he fucked you over.. why are you friends with him again? he strung you along all summer... ..
 
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