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Ever just wanted to leave?

Discussion in 'TRIBE Main Forum' started by afterglow, Feb 27, 2002.

  1. afterglow

    afterglow TRIBE Member

    Have you everhad that feeling where you just want to pack a bad or two and leave?

    I'm not talking about a vacation, but moving, leaving behind your old life in search of something new?

    Have anyone of you actually done this?

    How can I get over these thoughts of wanting to leave?

    This isn't very pleasant, let me tell you.
    Last edited: Feb 27, 2002
  2. Hi i'm God

    Hi i'm God TRIBE Member

    can't talk... packing.
  3. poker face

    poker face TRIBE Member

    I am feeling it right now.

    Quebec here I come!
  4. kyfe

    kyfe TRIBE Member

    so much for the afterglow,

    Hey eveyone wants to change something some more than others, I have a couple of friends travelling around Asia for an undisclosed amount of time, in high school many of my friends left and went to Alberta and BC. personally I get the urge to move to Holland every once and a while.

    My only suggestion is before you end up making any kind of mistake explore yourself and find out who you truely are. Only then will you have answered your own question without regret.

  5. Cheeka

    Cheeka TRIBE Member

    I totally have afterglow :)
    In good times and in bad.
    I think there is so much more out there for me... more then the 9-5, party on the weekends... same old same old.

    I've been thinking about moving to Madrid again the last few weeks.
    It just seems like I need to be doing something different.
  6. Preroller

    Preroller TRIBE Member

    I'm totally hearing you mang.

    I have 2000 left to pay for my car, and whren that's done, I want to save a few grand up, and go west young man!

    Take a few weeks to drive to BC, maybe Cali or something....just trying to firure out all the logistics right now.

    I have thought it out for a while and can't think of anything I'd rather do. I feel as though I really want to do this NOW and not waste my young times on sitting around the house beating off and shit. ;)

    And then just pack whatever I can into my car and get some other shit fed ex'd to me wherever I end up.

    One thing I would really like is for someone to come with me. I know there would be some crap, but it would just be nice to have someone to share it with and drive with.

    I don't know , but I do know that I'm feeling totally lost here in Stratford, and I know there is soo much other shit I want to see and do. Fishing in the glacier feed rivers in the Rockies BOO-YA

    it's either this, or go back to university.......

    Good Luck trying to figure it out.
  7. pr0nstar

    pr0nstar TRIBE Member

    If you get up and leave... make sure you go somewhere nice :D

    And Preroller, if you go out west, make sure you start in BC and go all the way down to San Diego.

    The little I saw of California was so beautiful! I can't wait to go back to Cali one day.

  8. SlipperyPete

    SlipperyPete TRIBE Member

    why would you want to 'get over these thoughts' -- don't bury something, especially if it's impacting on you so strongly. Think about *why* you want to make such a change, and if the reasons are good, then by all means DO IT.

    Don't settle for second best -- if you think you'd be happier at this point in your life someplace else then just do it -- the last place you'd want to find yourself 10 years from now is saying "i WISH i'd gone and done that trip/that vacation/that leave of absence"

    Trust your feelings, you'll be much happier for it in the long run.
  9. KiFe

    KiFe TRIBE Member


    oh god :)
  10. alexd

    alexd Administrator Staff Member

    Its called a "geographical cure". Problem is (I have found anyway) that wherever you go, there you are.
  11. feisty boy

    feisty boy TRIBE Member

    what he said.

    don't base it on a moment of panic or something, though.... think about it logically, weigh the options. don't do it to escape the present - do it to pursue new options.

    hell, in the past couple of days, i've resolved to move out west - it wasn't even an idea 2 weeks ago.

    seems like this winter is giving a lot of people thoughts about transplanting their lives.
  12. Preroller

    Preroller TRIBE Member

    Yeah, that's pretty much the plan......

    just too beautiful that west coast.

    An added bonus is that my good friend and cousin is in San Diego working for IBM, and she said I caould chill with her there, she lives right on the beach!

    I have another thought. I have lived on my own and collected alot of crap........what should I do with this keep it somewhere or sell some/most of it IE this new computer setup, furniture, electronics, my boat, I guess I could bring the boat, but it would make for shitty milage.

    I would only bring prolly my fishing shit, clothes and snowboard, and lots of music. And of course all my camping stuff. just pull over when im tired and sleep in the tent, start a little fire. pretty cheap, you can stay at campsites for cheap, and its beauty and fun.

    any thoughts are greatly appreciated and will be givin a looksy.
  13. Preroller

    Preroller TRIBE Member

    Oh yeah, 1 more thing.

    Does anyone have any experiance jsut travelling and getting odd jobs?

    I got a few pretty good skills(bartending for 1.5 years, sous chef for 4 years) for getting jobs like that. I am also not against doing hard work(construction or house building).

    I was also thinking of doing some sort of Habitat for humanity or relief work, but I don't think you'd get paid for it? would they help you out for places to live and eat?

    Or I have some friends in Teach and Travel, but I don't know that I'd be totally down with Asia, no offence to anyone, just rather stay in Canada or USA, maybe somewhere hotter would be ok, plus I can speak some spanish, but I would be so lost in Korea or Japan language wise.

    Man i ask alot of questions
  14. feisty boy

    feisty boy TRIBE Member

    ^^why don't you look into one of those storage unit things out in the industrial zones - could probably stash al your stuff there cheaply.
  15. eco.R1

    eco.R1 TRIBE Member

    absolutely brilliant.
  16. Preroller

    Preroller TRIBE Member

    uuhhh, i have lots of places to store it, (parents, g-mas etc...)

    that's no problem, jus you know I could sell some to have more cash.

    Maybe I can check out some of the Brazilian models while I'm at it.

    Last edited: Feb 27, 2002
  17. Ditto Much

    Ditto Much TRIBE Member

    And I am my own worst enemy, thus where ever I go my worst enemy is always right beside me.
  18. Preroller

    Preroller TRIBE Member

    Dam x's

  19. Bumbaclat

    Bumbaclat TRIBE Member

    I might be taking off to Sydney, Australia in May.... but we'll see, that's a commitment.

  20. mingster

    mingster TRIBE Member

    Word @ the D.

    Be careful that you're not just trying to run away from something.
    Or that you're looking to change yourself this way. It usually doesn't work. If your alone here, and you are yourself, you'll be the same person, wherever you are.

  21. Cheeka

    Cheeka TRIBE Member

    ^^^ I agree Mel
    I did that once - packed up my stuff and moved across the country b/c I was running from something (or more accurately someone)
    It didn't change anything... in fact it just made it more difficult when I realized that I needed to sort the situation out and ended up moving back there with him again.

    Answers are tough to find sometimes - and as much as we like to think out of sight out of mind it doesn't work like that.
    It was actually that much worse for me because I was so far away.

    but I still believe that traveling and opening yourself to new opportunities can help you discover who you are as a person - and may make it that much easier to figure out what you want out of life - and makes the answers that much clearer. :)
  22. mingster

    mingster TRIBE Member

    I agree Chrissy. :)

  23. Smiley Jo

    Smiley Jo TRIBE Member

    Cheeka, when are you going again?
    We leave on the 18th of April and come back on the 28th I think.

    Joanna [​IMG]
  24. Sassy

    Sassy TRIBE Member

    I couldn't agree with you more! Sometimes people need a change of scene and pace to figure out whats going on in side of them. We get so stuck in our daily routines that it makes it hard sometimes for one to soul search and seek out answers to life's more difficult questions. I have travelled a couple times over the last 8 years for a atleast three months abroad at a time and found the experience totally refreshing and it did help me sort out some problems and I felt so much more relaxed and ready to tackle life when I returned. :)
  25. beaker

    beaker TRIBE Member

    it's true that you can't run away from your problems. but there are always external factors involved and sometimes it might be the best thing to do something drastic and move somewhere else where you can get a fresh start and different perspective. sometimes you need a change of scenery though to help you try through things. a vacation is always a good idea too.

    i've been flirting with the idea of moving away a lot lately and i think i want to move away in about 2-3 years from now (after i finish school and work for a while). it's not any one thing in particular, i can just see myself getting tired of toronto. especially the winters - i fucking hate the winters here. it's about 5 months of the year i could really do without.

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