a quick question for women....

[CC]

now, this is a problem that i have had for just about ever now. and i figured that i might as well figure it out sooner or later. i seem to meet women who i will talk to at great length and i am convinced i have the pick up in the bag. but then i try to get or give the phone number and i hear this:

"oh sure.... oh but i have a boyfriend...". and then they insist on having me call them. i just say forget it and i'll walk away and they will practically throw their number at me anyways. i've even had a couple women not let me know about the boyfriend until we've already made dinner reservations.

so what i need to know is:

1) could this be some sort of stupid screen technique, where women are waiting to see if you're interested in them, or interested in getting laid

2) could they be sort of losing touch with the boyfriend and they are shopping for a replacement

3) is this a line to get rid of me

or 4) do i just look like friend material?

 

[mystique0217]

i would say the answer is:
none of the above.

before i speak of my thought,let me tell you, like all the boob size is different among all of us, womyn, the background of us is also different. so please do not take my word as a generalizational concept.

first of all, what I know for sure is:
-they like you.

otherwise, they will not listen to you..right?

second of all,
most of women for sure would like to know you first=interested in the friendship first.

they tell you that they have b.fs. cause they are being honest with you.

but they do listen to you, cause you are interesting, and the friendship that you are about to have with this womyn may turn into such wonderful relationship.

you know, all of us who says: friends are the most wonderful gifts that i have in my life (quoted by allie

), we all love good friends.

please do not jump into the dating mode too fast.

it maybe seen as *offensive* manner.

if you were really interested in dating with them, try to *do you wanna just hang out sometime?* than *would you like to go for a nice dinner sometime*?

i know that all of us are different, but
if i would like to hang around with you and consider of possible outcome from the friendship if you asked me just to hang around sometime.

i guess it will all depend though.

but yeah.

take it easy, dude.
that works always better

peace

-Kumi

 

[Booty Bits]

i am drunk, so my spelliong is not that good.

but, a girl will say that she has a boyfriend so that you won't come on to her.

she probabl;y actually has a boyfriend and that is why she mentions it to you.

basicallly she is saying "yes, i want to go out and have a good time with you and get to know you,. but i have a boyfriend, so dont assume that you can get into my pants tonight"

yes that is all

 

[Guest]

i THINK YOU ARE GOING TO TOO MANY SAUSAGE PARTIES!

 

[Che]

Nice advice Kumi!

 

[air-bag]

Yeah actually it is interesting how every acquaintance with a representative of the opposite sex necessarily carries sexual connotations...

Well.. at least for us guys..

 

[Guest]

maybe you're gay?

 

[PlumRidge]

Whenever I talk to a girl in a bar , they always tell me they have a GIRLFRIEND.
I think that may be a nicer way of saying " take a hike , you geek-freak ". At least I hope so.

 

[under18]

2,3, or 4 ...

-c-

 

[Lambchops]

Since they are asking for you to call them, it's 2 or 4.

If they wanted to get rid of you they wouldn't attach a number to the excuse (unless it was a fake #). Most women screen without giving their number too.

 

[MoFo]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by ~dazed~:
maybe you're gay?</font>

It is really refreshing to see a hetero thread for once because of the recent "gaying" of the board (no thanks to me) and I'd like to nominate this thread to be kept "gay-free" please. Even I'm getting bored.

 

[MoFo]

I'm sorry, but no girl would ever tell you about her boyfriend (or a crush, or some guy she fucked last night or some hot guy who walked by) without wanting to get rid of you unless they were totally stupid and tactless.

She probably trusts you enough to come talk to you and to have a confidante or something. Or maybe she IS attracted to you but doesn't know it yet so she's being all honest and shit.

But as soon as they mention that they're attached or that they like to carpet-munch, it's definitely a wall. Break through it and her boyfriend will break your nose.

 

[SE7EN]

skip all of this headcase action by going out more with friends who have friends who have friends. they always have the inside information you need to keep you from wasting your time.

-7-

 

[mystique0217]

she is honest with you, cause she knows that she needs to respect her boy friend, and also it would be a better first impression to let you know of the truth than an illusion in the first place.

i mean, i never close my door to meeting up with great people, and if the friendship that i am going to have with the person mean more than what i have with my current partner in a long period of time after i got to know him/her, i would most definitely consider what to do in the dillematic situation.

also, if i was in the opposite side of shoe,
i would never EVER even hang around with a guy who was dishonest about his partner.

Cause i know that such personality will always stay there, and when I decided to go out with him after i say bye bye to my original significant another, i can also put myself in a shoe where i would be ditched by him..

so do not try to think too complicated.
it is just so simple.

they like you,
they are honest with you,
and they want to know you
without considering any future outcome of
getting to know you.

peace

-Kumi

 

[spAce cAdette]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by PlumRidge:
Whenever I talk to a girl in a bar , they always tell me they have a GIRLFRIEND.
I think that may be a nicer way of saying " take a hike , you geek-freak ". At least I hope so.</font>

or maybe you're just at the wrong bar

 

[KiX]

I highly doubt if a girl was interested in you she'd tell you she has a bf. Like... what purpose does that serve??

I think it's totally better to come out and tell them you have someone already or aren't interested if you're getting an unwanted mack vibe. Makes things less ugly down the road and allows everyone to know where they stand in a friendship that could otherwise be fine.

=tina=

 

[Tonedeff]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by KiX:
I highly doubt if a girl was interested in you she'd tell you she has a bf. Like... what purpose does that serve??

</font>

Ever heard of a little something called disregard as complex coital strategy?

Been part of the game since the game had players.

 

[Guest]

get a hooker.

 

[R4V4G3D_SKU11S]

Haven't read the whole thread but...

A- She's not interested

OR

B- She is interested in you. But she has a boyfriend. Doesn't sound like the kind of girl you would want to be pursuing.

 

[Temper Tantrum]

What's wrong with being friends with a girl?

~allie~

 

[Deus]

Cause guy's don't go to clubs to pick up women to be friends with...

 

[KiX]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by Tonedeff:
Ever heard of a little something called disregard as complex coital strategy?

Been part of the game since the game had players.

</font>

Maybe i've just always been one of those girls who doesn't feel the need to lie my way into getting guys interested in me.

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">What's wrong with being friends with a girl?</font>

No fucking kidding. OMG such a crime her giving out her number when she's not interested. I'm so sick of meeting people at clubs or guys in general who think that if i want to get into an indepth conversation past "so, what are you on tonight?" that i'm interested in them. This is why, as mentioned before, I'm a big fan of being straight up.

=tina=

 

[BEtonka]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by mystique0217:
she is honest with you, cause she knows that she needs to respect her boy friend, and also it would be a better first impression to let you know of the truth than an illusion in the first place.

i mean, i never close my door to meeting up with great people, and if the friendship that i am going to have with the person mean more than what i have with my current partner in a long period of time after i got to know him/her, i would most definitely consider what to do in the dillematic situation.

also, if i was in the opposite side of shoe,
i would never EVER even hang around with a guy who was dishonest about his partner.

Cause i know that such personality will always stay there, and when I decided to go out with him after i say bye bye to my original significant another, i can also put myself in a shoe where i would be ditched by him..

so do not try to think too complicated.
it is just so simple.

they like you,
they are honest with you,
and they want to know you
without considering any future outcome of
getting to know you.

peace

-Kumi</font>

Kumi u are totally right. I am one of those girls who is totally honest. I mean I have a bf but why can't we just be friends you know? What pisses me off are those guys that can't appreciate the fact that even though they hit on me I still wouldn't mind getting to know them and becoming friends. I think guys just get scared very easily (yes a total generalization but I am speaking from experience).

Cheerios
BEata

 

[Chiclet]

I agree with Kumi

Also, always be careful not to mistaken kindness for a come on.

 

[mingster]

<font face="Verdana, Arial" size="2">Originally posted by air-bag:
Yeah actually it is interesting how every acquaintance with a representative of the opposite sex necessarily carries sexual connotations...

Well.. at least for us guys..

</font>

You notice it too? I think it sucks actually....

Ming.