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A poop of one’s own: Is office defecation the last taboo for women at work?

acheron

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Office pooping: Is it the last taboo for women at work? | News | National Post

Shortly after crushing your morning coffee at the office, it starts: That rumble-in-the-Bronx, the growl of your intestines working their magic, moving things southbound.

If you’re a man, you may be so cavalier as to tuck a newspaper or magazine under your arm and stroll towards the company throne.

But if you’re a woman, you may be one of the many for whom that gut roiling spurs panic, or at very least a mental strategic planning session as to how this business can be taken care of as discreetly as possible.

In a widely shared article on the Daily Beast, posted Monday, writer Laura Dimon revived the debate by sort of oddly using the news peg of Sheryl Sandberg’s new beststeller Lean In, which encourages women to shed that anxiety about getting ahead and just make it happen.

Sure, women are making their moves towards the corner office, the subhead for the story titled ‘The Last Office Taboo for Women: Doing Your Business at Work’ proclaims. “But there’s one place where they’re still wracked with anxiety and shame.”

The lengths women go to to avoid crapper detection are many, the Beast article reads: One woman in New York City takes her BlackBerry with her to the can and sends emails to provide herself an ‘alibi’ — because of course, one can only send email from her desk these days. An unnamed female host of a popular American morning show confesses to walking 10 minutes (10 minutes!) to another part of her office building in order to drop the kids off at the pool. Gawker, of course, gleefully created a guessing game as to which show host this could possibly be.


Getty Images"Jill" told the Daily Beast that if she cannot avoid going to the bathroom at work, she hoists her feet off the ground and props them against the side of the stall
New York Magazine’s The Cut marvelled over the contortionist skills of Jill, a 28-year-old NYC transplant from Vancouver who told the Daily Beast that if she cannot avoid going to the bathroom at work, she hoists her feet off the ground and props them against the side of the stall to avoid the “chance that the person next to me would recognize my shoes and forever hold in their heads that I was the girl” dropping a bomb in the ladies’ room.

“How is that even possible? Wouldn’t the angle and leverage be all wrong? I’m picturing Jill pooping like a ping-pong show,” writes The Cut’s Maureen O’Connor. “Her effort is unnecessary: Nobody peeks under the edge of a stall to identify a pooping woman by her shoes. Nobody.”

It is okay to poop at work. Nobody is judging you. Nobody cares
But a new Canadian survey on bowel health suggests that ladies’ room anxiety is, in fact, very real.

The national survey of more than 1,000 Canadian women found that while the majority acknowledge the importance of bowel health, a whopping 71% admitted to going to great lengths to avoid defecating — especially in a public washroom.

Conducted the week of Feb. 28th to March 7th on behalf of Vision Critical and funded by Janssen Inc., the survey found almost half of women (46%) agree they have avoided going in a public washroom, and over 40% have waited until the bathroom was vacant. Forty-five percent of women reported feeling embarrassed to have a bowel movement in a public washroom and 23% have — like that anonymous morning show host — found a ‘room of one’s own’ on another floor of their office building.

The Cut, of course, does not wish to leave readers with a sense of shame. For all those anonymous stall-avoiders — there is hope.

“It is okay to poop at work. Nobody is judging you. Nobody cares. Nobody gives a s–t about your s–ts — we’re too busy s–ting in our own stalls,” Ms. O’Connor writes.

“Go poop in your office bathrooms, everyone. It’s what our feminist foremothers would have wanted. Every woman deserves a poop of her own.”
 

Re: Shoe

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At my first real job as a summer student in a large company, I was nervous about my youth and inexperience compared to the senior experts. Then one day while I was in the can, the big boss strolled in and let 'er rip in the next stall. It made me realize that despite the corner office and six-figure bonus, he's just a person like any other.
 

acheron

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but this isn't about men.. a guy would piss in a can at his desk if he was given the motivation.

this story is all about that societal expectation that women do not, in fact, have bowel movements; all they do is pee as quietly as possible.

Now of course that's a load of crap. Any guy who's lived with a girl knows that they can drop bombs like pros. I lived with a vegan for a while and damn, she could rival some of my worst mexican nights... but that's at home. apparently, women have a thing about taking a dump at the office. Men see it as a kind of sport, we even warn eachother of our accomplishments ("I'd give it 5 mins there buddy...") but office women... it's like the risk of being discovered mid-shit by one of your coworkers is like supergirl's secret identity being discovered.
 
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sk8

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I have no such issues. Any of that went out the window the minute I was diagnosed with Crohn's. In fact, I often spend the first few minutes of anywhere new determining the bathroom situation.

Now, that being said, if I'm at someone's house for a party or dinner thing, I will sometimes ask to use an upstairs bathroom, but that's more for their benefit than mine :)
 

Sal De Ban

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At my first real job as a summer student in a large company, I was nervous about my youth and inexperience compared to the senior experts. Then one day while I was in the can, the big boss strolled in and let 'er rip in the next stall. It made me realize that despite the corner office and six-figure bonus, he's just a person like any other.
heartwarming.
 

djfear

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There should be a rule for this thread that you're only allowed to respond to it while on the can.
 
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Big Harv

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my wife is exactly like the women described in the article...can't go if someone else is in the room

she has also accidentally desecrated a many starbucks washrooms because of her refusal to sit on the seat, even with the paper seat covers, and the consequent flotsam and jetsam that don't make the target.
 

mandapanda

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she has also accidentally desecrated a many starbucks washrooms because of her refusal to sit on the seat, even with the paper seat covers, and the consequent flotsam and jetsam that don't make the target.
i hope she cleans up after herself! i've always wondered what was up with people missing the toilet. like how hard is it to miss the giant hole in the middle of the seat?!? if you need to do whatever you need to do to avoid the toilet seat, then at least clean up your bodily fluids. i have actually seen shit on the floor. THE FLOOR FFS! women's washrooms are gross.

anyways, if i have to go at work, it's gonna happen. end of story. i'll try to hit up the handicrapper because it's just more serene in there. ;)
 

praktik

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Ya man - it just feels so good after....

I only have three work-poo hangups - 1st is kind of hangup, the other two are pet-peeves (annoyances):

- I don't mind sharing a row of stalls with a few people, but in a row of 5 stalls if there are people in 1, 3, 5 i will go to another floor instead of joining "shitter's row". I am pretty sure this is common, who wants to be in the middle of a shitstorm, fureal??
- even spacing: if there is a 5 stall row and I am in stall 1 and the others are empty don't take the stall right next to me. I hate it when the clear option for a 1 cubicle spacing isn't taken (though I understand sometimes that isn't possible)
- stall urinators: it has happened frequently that I am pooing in stall 1 - with no one in the others - and the dude who doesn't bother with the 1 cubicle-spacing rule is some dude who is afraid of homos looking at his dick who MUST forgo the urinals and pee always in a cubicle. It's annoying when the 1 cubicle space rule isn't observed, but its even MORE annoying when the rule is violated so some prick could pee in a frickin cubicle!!
 
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Blysspluss

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I could care less about dropping a deuce at work or in any other public washroom.

When ya gotta go...

Plus, if you join the CF, and hit the washrooms/showers after phyiscal training...the stalls are full. (Especially true on course) You take the first one when someone's done with it. You don't have time for hangups about pooping.

Hell...there were times when we'd all be singin' in there and dropping some brownstuffs.

Just ain't no thang.
 

erika

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my wife is exactly like the women described in the article...can't go if someone else is in the room

she has also accidentally desecrated a many starbucks washrooms because of her refusal to sit on the seat, even with the paper seat covers, and the consequent flotsam and jetsam that don't make the target.
So she's one of the ones that make me go "ewwww! can't this person just use the toilet normally? Do they have to leave such a disgusting mess for others?"

Please show her this and tell her she has to get over herself.
 
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Big Harv

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i guess if you have an accident and stuff ends up sprayed on to the floor and walls of a public restroom, you probably aren't going to want to take paper towels and tp to clean it up without rubber gloves.
 

Hawk Eye

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i hope she cleans up after herself! i've always wondered what was up with people missing the toilet. like how hard is it to miss the giant hole in the middle of the seat?!? if you need to do whatever you need to do to avoid the toilet seat, then at least clean up your bodily fluids. i have actually seen shit on the floor. THE FLOOR FFS! women's washrooms are gross.

anyways, if i have to go at work, it's gonna happen. end of story. i'll try to hit up the handicrapper because it's just more serene in there. ;)
better then blood. I see blood all the time in washrooms. It's so fucking disgusting. Women are the worst.

I have no problem going to the washroom in public. I prefer not to but if you gotta go, you gotta go... and not bc of me being shy but just bc washrooms are nasty.

There are a lot of women who get 'stage fright'.. I know i'll be in there and it's so quiet. I don't get it. It's a normal bodily function.. why are ppl so shy about this type of stuff.
 
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